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*essy J
writes:We got married after few months of dating and now it's been 5 months since we got married. We used to have sex but I was the one to provoke it. Even in the first month of our marriage he liked to have it just once in 1-2 weeks. I always thought guys love sex. Our love is really strong and I know he's not cheating. He's really nice and cares for me alot. Since we are newly weds, I like to have it few times in a week, when I try to foreplay with him, he clear said "Don't force me just let it happen". But if I wait for it to happen, I don't know how long it's gonna take. We do have great sex and both of us enjoy but he tries to avoid sex. Doesn't a guy like to have sex regularly?
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reader, lovelyone3 +, writes (30 June 2010):
 Well, not that it matters that much, but you didn't say how old you guys are. It sounds like there is something physically "off" with him and he should go to the doctor... if it's not physical, perhaps it's something emotional? Either way, it's definitely not your fault or anything to make yourself doubt what you are doing. Good luck - I hope he's willing to see a professional or talk to one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2010): I'm just saying this becaue I've been there. He let it die down....and it happens. It's up to both of you to bring it back. He has to want to. My suggestion is to seduce him with oral sex.... :D guys can't turn that away.
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reader, Jessy J +, writes (30 June 2010):
Jessy J is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the comments guys. I'm 27 and he's 35 and it's a first marriage for both of us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2010): Dear friend,
I seems to me that maybe the initial 'fireworks' of the relationship has died down. Considering that you both have only been together a year (i'm guessing this time frame). i would definitely share with him your concerns and try to get to the root of the issue- could be fears or something lying underneath the surface. Building a strong foundation is so important and communication is everything. Be a good listener and make it safe for him to talk. Be patient as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): I'd reccomend you get to the bottom of this ASAP. I put up with this from my wife of 14 years and finally gave up and left her (thre were other reasons too). Sex is not everything, but it is true a marriage will be made or broken in a bedroom. If he does not give you what you need, you will grow to regret him and your situation and will eventually leave or stray. Personally, I feel HE needs to just "let it happen" when you come onto him. It is a 2-way street ya know.
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reader, Hopeful13 +, writes (29 June 2010):
How old is your husband?
It might be a good idea for him to have his hormones checked because it could be a result of low testosterone.
If he gets a doctor to place him on testosterone shots or cream, that might turn things around in the bedroom.
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