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anonymous
writes:hi my mom is going out with a guy and she ahs been with him for nearly three years and time and time again he has been masturbating over playboy girls and it makes my mom really upset she loves him but i told her to kick him out but i dont want to see her with a broken heart, what can i do to help her?plz reply as soon as possible and thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (8 April 2007):
 Hi,
I agree with anonymus, that's pretty normal behaviour for guys. Most have a few magazines and most people masterbate. It would be a problem if it is constant and interfering with their sex life. If he can't get off the computer or needs the magazines to be stimulated at all, it's a problem. If your Mom is just jealous and insecure about the other women, it's her problem. I like what my sister-in-law always said - "Hey, she's one-dimensional and I'm not! Turn the Page and she gone, but I'm still Here!". Some women object strongly to porn and find it offensive, but to most guys it just fills that visual curiousity that men have and nothing more. I'd rather my husband looked at a magazine than go to a "Gentleman's Club" (what a euphemism). I think he could have much worse problems than this and it really is harmless. The biggest problem is that your Mom is upset and you are worring about her. If you decide to talk to her about what you have written, make sure she knows that you are anonymus on this web site and that we're all here to help. I would be really suprised if she kicks him out for this transgression, she was probably just mad. All adults relationships include disagreements and arguing from time-to-time, so try not to worry too much. If they love each other, they will work things out. Take Care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2007): The best thing you can do is be there for her when she's upset but really nearly all guys masturbate over porn anyway. Her boyfriend is not that unusual. The question is how you choose to react to it. I think chucking him out is a bit extreme, it's not like he's cheating on her
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