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writes: yeah i know its only 11 months, not THAT long really but i love him! right, ill explain... i met this guy a year ago on sunday and we got talkin and stuff, he ended up asking me out on the 3rd august, which was the best day of my life! but my mum doesnt trust him, im now 16, was 15 when i met him, he is 20 and was 19 when i met him. my mums like why would he wanna be with you? your a child, n all this sh*t n im like well we love each other mum! she says it wont last and that hes using me for sex. yes i admit i do have sex with him very often, 3-4 times a day sometimes, and we do *experiment* LOL, we have a very good sex life. but he doesnt say anything if i dont want to do it, he doesnt force me into anything, ive tried talking to my mum, ive sat with her while ive been talkin to him on msn so she can see ehwta hes like, shes met his parents, shes met his brother, shes spoke to him, ive asked her on numerous occasions if she wants to go out (theres a small, quite posh cafe in a small village near where i live and ive asked her many of times if she wants to go for a coffee, ill pay... blaa blaa blaa. she just doesnt want to! ive asked her if she wants to get the bus into town, nope! ive asked her if she wants to go away for the weekend, just me and her. ill pay. nope! i feel like i dont know who she is, i cant talk to her, i dont know why shes like this with me. it really upsets me because she is driving me and my boyfriend apart, well trying to! it only makes up spend more time together, why is she like this?! whys she so against me and my boyfriend, i love him and her so much!! please give me some advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey thanks, i have had a part time job since i was 15, been workin there around 14 months now and it brings in money at the end of the day, i have a bank account, basic saving account which i have ha a direct debit off of my parents every months of £20 (pocket money) for doing things around the house and helping look after my younger sister etc, so i have money thats not the problem. ive tried to talk to her about everything, her life, my life, school, work, blaaaaa. thanks for the advice anyway :D apprieciate it alot x
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reader, Star_07  +, writes (17 July 2008):
 Have you tried telling her how this makes you feel? DId you tell her that she is very important to you and that you need her? Tell her these things and let her know that you love her.
I can understand where your mom is coming from. Maybe this guy is different but most guys 19 and 20 are just out there screwing around and all about having fun. And if he wants a serious relationship, why did he pick someone as young as you? It could be that he is using you or it could be something else.
There is so much that goes on during your teen years, there are pretty big changes between 16 and 18, 18 and 20 and so on. You might not see this now but just think back when you were 14, how much has changed. Im sure a lot. I think this might be worrying your mom and often times, relationships can hinder your emotional development and also tend to get in the way of schooling. ALl these things are reason for anyone to worry about their daughter.,
I hope that you can repair your relationship with your mother, she is the most important person in your life and she will never go away as long as she lives. She loves you like no other person on this earth could. Continue to talk to her and tell her how much you need her. Im sure she will come around.
Please keep us updated!
Take Care!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (17 July 2008):
This is toughy because you have obviously tried all the things I would usually recommend.
She is being protective over you because of his age, that's clear enough but after 11 months together and meeting him etc etc etc you think she would be warming up.
I think you just have to leave her to it for a little while and let her realise she's driving you away. Don't put so much effort in and stop talking about your relationship with your boyfriend. Talk about other things like if you are going to college or your long term plans, or your new haircut. Talk to her about her life and what she's up to and what she wants to do now you are a bit older.
If he is not mentioned for a little while then she may stop being so tense around you and open up a bit. I would also not bring him round and not let her know you are having sex. She's probably just waiting for you to come home and tell her you are pregnant, let her know that you want more from life than to be a young mum.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2008): Your other only cares for you , Q : how can you pay for all these things at just sixteen , like you i was with a guy and there was the same age difference like your mothermine was worried told be it would end i tears - SHE WAS RIGHT AFTER A YEAR TOGETHER GOT PREGNANT when he found out he lost it beat me up and have not seen him since
if your in ove with this guy and he feels the same relax about it and dont be too intense
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