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22-25,
*lways.hope
writes:What can I do about this ? I've been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months and it seems like with ever day that passes, my mother is always think more terible things that she thinks I've been doing like: one day I asked her if I could hang out at my boyfriend's house and she sat me down and asked me "so.. When did you lose your virginity?" I'm a virgin and I really had no idea where she had gotten that from, I couldn't do anything but just stare at her like she was nuts! She said that she had found semen in my underwear and kept going on about safe sex and that I would have to go on the pill ect. but I AM A VIRGIN and I told her "unless some creep raped me while I was sleeping, I'm innocent" but sence then she always have been thinking the worst. Even when me and my boyfriend are on a date at a public pool or something, I see my mom come to the place we're at. she thinks I don't know she is there but... this is really getting out of hand, I am on such a tight leash and I have givin her no reason to worry. I believe I am a fairly good child compaired to other kids my age, I'm 14, don't do drugs (not even if I had to, to save my life), Obidient, helpfull around the house, I don't get into that much trouble.... I just don't see how she just always believe the worst in me...
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 May 2012):
 Well then write her a letter then so she cannot interrupt that. Hand it to her and ask her to read it. Explain why you have wrote it, write everything you need to down on it about everything including that sometimes you feel you cannot sit and talk to her because she doesn't allow you.
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reader, always.hope +, writes (22 May 2012):
always.hope is verified as being by the original poster of the question Aunt Honesty, You are probebly right. But even when I do try to talk to her and try to have her understand, I can barely even get a word in...it would end up being a 3-4 hour lecture and I'm lucky if I get a sentance in.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (21 May 2012):
You are her little girl and she is just worried about you. At the age of fourteen you are still legally under age and I guess she is just scared that you might be young and silly and do something that would result in getting you pregnant. Am sure you are a good daughter for her to have and am sure she knows that, she is just worried. Believe me later on in life if you ever have a fourteen year old daughter you will look back on this and understand what your mother was feeling.
It is not that she does not trust you, because believe me she probably wants to believe you, she is just scared because most teenage girls hide this sort of thing from there mother.
I think you need to sit down and talk to her. Tell her you are still a virgin and that you plan to stay that way, reassure her she has nothing to be worried about, and also tell her you know when she turns up at these places. Be open and honest with her and maybe you can both come to a compromise.
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