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writes:Why does my mom keep doing this to me? Ever since I was little she's always cared most about work. It's a family business, where shes an owner. My niece, my brothers daughter was born spoiled. I'm not saying I'm not, but she lives in a fantasy and she's about 15 years old now. Because my mom supports me, she gives me about 30$ to live on for the week including gas while she's away and works and comes back on the weekends. Most the time, I miss out on about two meals a day. She tells me how many bills she needs to pay and how broke we are, and I never ask for anything. I wear the same clothes every week. And have owned most of what I wear since middle school. I'm 21 now. My mom took my niece out to go clothes shopping (her closet is packed with clothes to a point where you can't fit a finger inside.) She's done this so many times, and it hurts more and more every time. I stay at home, dont go out cause I feel horrible for wasting her money in such a way but she'll go out and further get things for my niece that she doesn't need. I'm really hurting and I can't take any more of her telling me how broke we are. How can I help my situation?
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (17 October 2010):
 If you are still studying is there a reason why you can't find a part time job out of school hours, that way you could buy yourself a few extra meals and save the rest towards more clothes, and have you noticed just how many bargains are to be had in "thrift" shops these days?
If you are not still at school and arent working maybe you need to consider it .... and be self sufficient, if your mother sees you trying to help yourself, and contributing towards the household bills you may notice a change in her attitude.
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reader, Ven +, writes (17 October 2010):
What is your situation? Do you work? Do you pay rent? I don't mean to throw this back on you, but if you are over 18 you are able to provide for yourself for the most part.
I am sorry that you feel your mother abandons you for work, and spoils her granddaughter instead of you. I honestly do not know how you would be able to change her mindset, so your best bet is to try and improve your own personal situation.
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