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female
age
16-17,
anonymous
writes:Please please help me? My boyfriend and I lost our virginity with eachother a few weeks ago. We have sex quite a lot and we haven't had sex without a condom. We ALWAYS use one. There's no way I can raise a baby. We really want to use birth control. I just don't know how to ask my mom. See, the thing is: my mom got pregnant when she was my age (15), so she's extremely paranoid about me getting pregnant. She will hate me and not consider me as a daughter if I tell her. I know that she will never talk to me again. I just really need birth control. Please?
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reader, Fee-Fee  +, writes (14 January 2009):
 Explain to your mum you honestly feel you are ready, and you would like some advice on birth control.
Tell her you have every intention to keep using condoms as well - and I do think this is a must.
You are a very intelligent girl for using them in the first place, you would be amazed how many girls your age just don't think about the consequences.
I am not a mother myself, but if I were I would be proud of my daughter for showing she respects and cares for her body.
The law is there for a reason, and I don't disrespect that at all, but if you genuinely, honestly, truly feel you are ready for sex, the most most important things are for you to make sure you are SAFE and PROTECTED, and there is nothing we can do to stop what has already happened!
Good luck, and enjoy!
Fee
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (13 January 2009):
 Even though you say your mom will never talk to you again and would feel she would not consider you as a daughter etc; i feel nothing could be further from the truth your mom will be glad you spoke to her because having been there herself pregnant at 15 same age as you she is not going to allow that to happen to you because she will know firsthand how extremely hard that would have been and wont want that for you so i think your mom would actually appreciate you going talking to her so she could advice you! I agree with Sheribaby38 Condoms do break and you need the contraceptive pill for extra safety so have a talk with your mom and tell her you are in an relationship now with this boy and you need advice on what is best to take etc; your mom will be understanding about this and if she is like most of us mom's she will know that young people are more sexually active younger and younger i personally feel you are still too young having had a daughter myself but your not my daughter and i would advise you to talk to your mom sooner rather than later good luck.
Gina
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reader, sheribaby38 +, writes (13 January 2009):
 okay i have a daughter your age so i think i am qualified to answer this.
i do not agree with you having sex at your age. i think you should have waited but you did it and thats that.
your mom needs to wake up and realize that you are sexualy active and you cant take it back. thank god your mature enough to use condoms i applaud you for that.
however, you know that condoms do break, so you do need to get that birth controll pill with or without her help. the last thing you want is to be 15 or 16 and pregnat. its not a good life. its a rough road and you can aviod it now. god bless you.
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