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writes:My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 1/2 months.. she came over today and we were laying on the couch side by side watching the movie "Disturbia" and we starting kissing and then we made out for 10 mins or so and it was very intimate. This was the first time we had together. My mom walked in and caught us and told us to separate and not be laying by each other. My mom later told me that she was disappointed in me because she said that we would not be doing that and she was upset because she thinks that we will take it too far next time or another. My gf has an issue in with disappointing people and knew she needed to let her dad know before my mom did. She said it was great but she said it was too soon later that night and I said ya I know, we screwed up I am sorry. She is afraid of what her dad will do and is afraid that he might make her break up with me. I doubt that he will but I am sure he will be disappointed. Also please keep in mind that we had kissed before (not made out) and our parents were ok with it. (For more insight and background please read my other questions which aren't near as long as this one.) I guess i am just not sure on what to do.
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reader, karlgoo +, writes (10 November 2008):
karlgoo is verified as being by the original poster of the question it turns out that her mom was not really even allowed to have a boyfriend until she was 18 so her mom really has no experience in this whatsoever and thinks that making out is gross.. lol but we are allowed to see each other and she is not grounded but we are not allowed to kiss
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (9 November 2008):
 as long as your both adult about it i shouldnt see why you can kiss and hug as long as you dont go over the limit/ i hope your parents can come to an agreement on this as it would be a shame though her mums prob worried you have sex she lands up pregnant so forth so as long as you prove you can be mature then i shouldnt see a problem. good luck aphexy xx
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reader, karlgoo +, writes (9 November 2008):
karlgoo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy parents are just concerned because we did not make a decision about it before hand and just followed our emotions. My mom think we will follow our emotions again and go too far...Recently her mom has moved out and left her and her brother with her dad. last night her mom was told when they visited her that we had to be seperated and her mom asked "were you making out?" and she said yes...i guess before like a year ago her mother and her had made an agreement that if her mom ever found out that she had been making out that she would have no contact with that boy for 2 weeks. I think it is rediculous that after all that time not enforcing the rule or reminding her of it and coming back and saying "Did you follow my rules?" So right now we can't see each other for a while but my parents think that its not fair and are going to have a parental discussion about it tonight..I will keep you in the loop..btw she is 14.
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reader, frankie.says.relax +, writes (9 November 2008):
 Think about this: do you think you or your girlfriend would regret it if you hadn’t been caught and the consequences of being caught weren’t apparent? Personally, I don’t think there is anything wrong in what you have done. Although it’s not nice to walk in on that (imagine if it was YOU walking in on your parents or something) I think your mum over-reacted to a situation which is frankly quite normal: you are both teenagers, over the age of consent, and considering each other whilst taking things slowly: no-one should be disappointed in you.Perhaps you could talk to your mum about the relationship, and in future do it more in private. And just have fun :) x
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (9 November 2008):
i dont see the problem to be honest with you so you were kissing your 16! if you were having sex then thats a different matter. i personally dont see the problem so in future i just wouldnt let my folks aware your not going against their wish they dont want you to take it to far have sex land with a kid and ruin your life! good luck aphexy
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