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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi all I'm really struggling here and need some advice been with my gf 5 years but I have started noticing all she does is bbm text facebook Twitter and I mean from when I get home from work till midnight so I assume she does this all day, by no means do I think she's cheating but what is this behaviour? Beginning to seem like a common curse of my generation or something more (my gf is 20) she gets very defensive if I bring it up and says she will do what she wants but seriously I feel so neglected and alone, talking to her ain't going to work but I need perspective on where this behaviour comes from you may say ditch her but obviously the situation is never that easy thanks in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2012): It's the facebook/twitter curse man, the need to know what's going on in everyones' lives every minute of every day. I my self use carrier pigeons, allows more time to relax and play on the xbox...
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reader, mooh  +, writes (18 June 2012):
Can you have some ground rules with her? for example: no cell phones while eating together or when you're doing an activity?
Don't attack her (some people feel very offended and take stuff too personally) but just tell her how you feel whenever she is on her phone instead of doing things with you. I'm sure that she will compromise if she cares about your relationship and having a future with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2012): It is an addiction. My partner and I were only talking about this type of behavior last evening while sitting with 3 family members. They were all on iphones and not speaking to us or each other. My partner and I ended up talking about the Bruce Willis film, Surrogates. Tongue in cheek, we discussed whether some people would actually prefer to stay home and live a virtual life. We were pointing to them at the time! Think we expected them to jump into the conversation and say something but none of them did. They were too busy online. Our conclusion was that some would indeed live a life online, many seem to be doing that already.
There`s tonnes of research into online addictions to social networking sites. Check it out and you might find some answers that help you understand what is happening to your partner.
It is very worrying when you tell someone that is supposed to love you, that you feel lonely and neglected and they STILL chose to ignore you. Because it interferes with their `enjoyment` of something. It is very selfish but addictions are like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2012): Sign of the times. Everywhere I look theres people attached to their phone.
You could suggest she puts it down and take her out,plan a few nights out in the week, even if its just a walk to the pub for a drink or 2 or a game of pool. The summer evenings are light and weathers better.
Its pure ignorance behaving like she does night after night, scared to miss out on the latest gossip,scared they'll be forgotten. Its like an addiction.
Tell her while your out and shes not on her phone, your getting fed up of it.
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