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writes:hey i need some advice from people ... i am only 15 and i am a carer. mi mum has skin cancer and i look after her all the time as shes always! in hospital .. recently i hav found out i have the same thing, im not alloud in the sun at all. i hate seeing my mum once she has just got out of the hospital because shes always in pain and i hate seeing her like tht. i am reli scared coz i dnt no if i will be able 2 cope with it for muck longer! it is reli hard for me and it reli gets me down, i am only 15 and people reli think i can cope with it all, but the truth is i reli dont no if i can cope ... ?? x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2009): The hospital should have social workers or other support workers to help you. Let one of the nurses know and they should be able to help you
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (3 June 2009):
 Please do check those sites; there are people there that can be of practical assistance to you, as ArmyMedic and RifRaf suggested. Here, all we can offer are words.
I know you're very brave and are trying to cope and help your mum as best you can. I think though that you should not pretend to be something you are not. Hiding your true feelings will make you feel very isolated and alone, because people will not know what is going on inside your heart and head. TELL THEM. You can hide your worry and tears from your mum, but do not lie to other people around you saying "Oh I'm just fine."
Ask for help. There is no shame or wrong in asking people to help you with practical things. In fact, from personal experience, I know that people around you want to support you just as much as you want to support your mother. Okay? Now is NOT the time for false pride or trying to be independent. Now IS the time to find out how giving and caring people can be when you give them half a chance.
So when that nurse asks you today how you are holding up, tell her what you wrote here. Tell her the truth, and continue to tell people the truth about your experience and your worries and fears. It will get you the help you need and deserve.
Take good care of yourself, and your mum of course.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno not yet ...
im with mi mum and helpin her only jus checkin this and going agen ... but i will sooon ...
thank u
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (3 June 2009):
 I think Rifraf is referring to the MacMillan Nurses, they are fantastic people who have helped me several times with my family.
Have you checked those links out yet?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyhh there is other people .. but it dnt help ...
its me and her facing life together ...
but its kinda hard so we gota get through it 1 step at a time .... i also hav my best freind tht sticks by me all the time and is always there for me! ... thank u btw
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (3 June 2009):
Cancer is such a hard thing to deal with and I don't think any of us are really qualified to help you at Dear Cupid, but can I suggest looking at these web sites, they can give support to you as a patient and as a carer. There is help you can get out there and you are not alone!
http://www.macmillan.org.uk/
http://www.carers.org
http://www.childline.org.uk/Pages/default.aspx
Good luck
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