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writes:Thank you in advance to all who respond to this. I became quite close to a guy who I worked with this year. He was married and so both he and I decided to cool everything...I did not want to hurt anyone and neither did he. We have kept up a casual friendship. What thing I have noticed is that now he constantly brings up his family...his mother and his chidren, topics he did not discuss before we both pulled back. I guess if I am being honest the friendship is not what it once was for me as I am looking for someone available. He is a great guy but I want to move on. This man feels comfortable enough to talk about these things with me now but I want to move on. Is it ok to feel this way
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to everyone who took the time to reply to my post!!
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reader, Alis  +, writes (11 July 2007):
I think he talks about his family to see your reaction. Does he talk about his wife? Is he trying to get you jealous?
If you are feeling uncomfortable with him talking about his family, you should tell him. Do you talk about your husband and your family, how does he react to that.
I think once there is an attraction there, it never really goes away and people try playing mindgames.
Good luck.
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reader, eddie +, writes (11 July 2007):
 He probably saw the light and is trying to get some relief from his feelings of guilt. He might be overemphasizing his family to try and repair some of the harm he did. They're only words but they might reinforce his decision to do the proper thing. It's like when someone goes too far in one direction and then too far in the other direction to compensate.
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reader, love-him +, writes (11 July 2007):
 Hey babe, if that is the case then yea you need to move on. Stay friends with this guy, and then afterwards, you need to look for someone else. The main thing is that you are happy, and talking about these subjects have proved to be hard for you, and he needs to know this. I hope i helped & good luck. Mail me if you would like to talk x x
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (11 July 2007):
 Sorry babes its meant to say things happen in life not live having a bad moment
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (11 July 2007):
Hi there hun,
Things happen in live and I am not blaming you nor am I blaming him you have done the right thing darling by ending this relationship you had with him as it would have turned out hurting everyone, so well done you!!!!
He now feels comfortable to talk about his family in front of you and babes you have to accept that fact...
You may not be the friend you once was, and I don't know if anything happened between you both but like you have said you need to move on with your own life now and that babes is perfectly normal....
You go out there girl strut ya stuff go out dating and enjoy your life you deserve that for yourself, go out with friends and live life to the max....
Hope this has helped you babes,
Good luck
Love Donna xx
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