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writes: this is prob. a stupid question. still would like some opinions. thank you.i am in a situation where my long time girlfreind is living far from me for about another six months. she is starting to question us. i am sure of us, but with her questions. i am starting to think i should go and try and get to know other women just to mabey triger my own questions. i am not looking to cheaat on her, i just think i need to create questions for myself. i don't drink or smoke so i am not sure where i should go. and i don't want some girl to be interested in a relationship i just want to force my self to look at it from outside our relationship.
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (11 September 2006):
 I dont think seeing other women will allow you to achieve anything. Its your girl that has this problem and you need to go some way in to addressing it rather than go out and find other women to talk to ?? I dont understand how that would work ? What questions are you talking about ? How can seeing other women make you understand the one you are with ? If shes having doutbs talk about it, find out whats up ? She could be scared duanted, worried that the next 6 months will take a toll on the two of you and she scared you wont make it.. maybe the doubts are because shes scared you will go dating other women ? Talk to her, find out what you both want and what her doubts are and work together on it, if you find out your not meant to be then cross that bridge when you come to it, but it could all be thats shes scared by it all. Talk to your girlfriend, not other women, they are very different people to who your girlfriend is and they cant solve your problems. Let her know how you feel and that your worried two and maybe you can work this out, but dont go out looking for trouble or that will make the whole situation a lot worse.. work together on this.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (10 September 2006):
 This is a bad idea and will only end the relationship faster than it may be ending anyway. You need to find out what's going on with this girl, find out why she's questioning the relationship and try and work through these questions with her. Going off with someone else doesn't give you an outside perspective, it just causes more problems and you don't need to add guilt, or any other emotions to this rocky situation!
Talk to her and do your best to answer her questions. If she needs to work out the answers to some on her own, then you must give her chance and space to do this. At the end of the day, if you both love each other enough, it will work out. If it's not meant to be, it will end but you have to try your hardest before you give up.
Maybe she just needs to know how much you love her again. Let her know this and give it your all. Good luck.
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