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writes:My LDR boyfriend and I saw one another two months ago, and continued keeping contact ever since. We talk every day through text, but one time he did not respond to my message for three days. And then he responded as if nothing happened. I asked him about it and he apologized for being busy. He had a huge project at work which I heard about often and it's now over. We have been well for a month but now he hasn't responded to my text in 36 hours even though it shows that he has read it. Why is this? Some people think it's no big deal, but I think it's no big deal to respond once an hour or so during off hours. What's up?
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reader, Mame06  +, writes (10 March 2014):
 Here's the scoop on LDRs: Either you trust a guy or you don't. If you don't, you are going to feel miserable like this every time he doesn't respond to a text, or he doesn't call when he says he will. It is going to drive you insane, and that is no way to live. Why torture yourself?
I don't suggest you confront him. Instead, busy yourself with your own life. It will be hard at first, but do anything and everything you can to keep your mind off of him. Try a new hobby, volunteer, spend time with friends. When he does come back around, say something like, "Oh, hi! It's nice to hear from you. How have you been?" And tell him how you've been so busy doing whatever you've been doing. Don't make it seem like you were waiting for him to contact you, and make sure you end the conversation first.
If he keeps disappearing like this, there probably is something amiss (it may or may not be another woman, but something isn't right). At that point, you should lightly, but firmly lay down the reality, which is, "Hey, I've noticed that you seem a little distant lately, is there something going on with you that I should know about?" See what he says. The truth might come out. If he makes excuses, then it's up to you to decide whether you will tolerate the behavior or not. You have to set boundaries, and setting boundaries means that you don't have to let a guy who is half-heartedly interested or not sure about what he wants string you along.
Good luck!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (10 March 2014):
 Here's the scoop on this guy..... He thinks you're interested in him...AND that he might have a chance to bed you, if he keeps up your interest....
BUT, his chasing other skirts - which are closer to him - are taking up so much of his time that he hasn't been able to make time to keep up contact (hence, "interest") in you....
YOU have seen something (from this) that makes you question if the guy really IS interested in you... so you ask your question, herein....
Bottom line: He isn't much interested in you; and you'd be wise to dump him....
Good luck...
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