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*3puremage1
writes:Somehow I felt very tired mentally after my previous experience with a girl. The experience between me and her was great at the start but everything turned disastrous at last. It was not a pleasant experience because we are not even friends anymore.This relationship had ended before summer holiday started, so it was about 4 months ago. Now I am in a new school with loads of relative fit looking girls in my year but somehow I am not turned on by them at all even though they flirt with me. I have just lost that feelings completely.It is weird. I don't know what had caused me to act like this. A lot of people don't understand my reactions to those girls; guys like me suppose to be turn on by some fit looking and rich girls but I just don't felt like it. Recently, I have discovered that I have put more emphasis on work rather than socializing with people especially girls, which is good to some degree. Is there anything wrong with me???
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reader, 83puremage1 +, writes (19 October 2011):
83puremage1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks and I wish you will be fine too :)
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (17 October 2011):
 Nah man nothin wrong. Im doing the same thing right now. In fact ive isolated myself into my own daily routine with work and the gym and ive never felt more productive. Im not healing. Im not some dog lickin his woynds im just finding ways to be more productive with life without many ppl in it. Good luck with things. Mature post for a teenager.
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reader, 83puremage1 +, writes (17 October 2011):
83puremage1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advise, I really appreciate it.
I think I just need some time to heel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2011): No, nothing is wrong with you. You are doing just fine and actually it is a good thing what you are doing.
I'm guessing you were very hurt by your ex. You said you were emotionally exhausted. What you need now is to heal, and it is much better to take the time to heal than to jump into relationships or sex.
I think you probably learned something, too. Just because a girl is hot, or fit, or rich, or appears to be "a 10" or whatever number.... that doesn't mean anything. Relationships are hard, and they are more than sex and looks. They can be damaging.
I think for now take your time healing. A lot of people your age won't understand why, and that's okay. They don't need to understand. Don't let them push you. Take your time, but do heal. Don't grow bitter. Just become the best you that you can be, and then one day you will start feeling ready and noticing girls again.
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