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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi, i need a mans point of view on this, my landlord always flirts with me, and i noticed him staring at my chest more than my face when he speaks to make, i now put on jumpers to make sure i don't encourage him, but he still does it, just there i was walking home and he was across the road and starred at me,didn't make any effort to hide it either, i am 25 he is at least 40 so i would never encourage him and i love my flat but should i think about moving, i just feel really uncomfortable around him, but can't avoid him either. What should i do if anything?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2014): He is taking advantage of the fact that he is your landlord; and moving isn't something you can just pickup any moment and do. Breaking the lease may lose your deposit. He also knows that his staring is making you uncomfortable. He gets pleasure from it. It gives him a sense of power over you.
This is when you have to grow a little courage; and speak up. "Hello, sir! Can I help you? Stand your ground and stare back!" The confrontation shows your displeasure and will weaken his power. Neighbors may also take notice.
You have to tell him that you really like your flat; but you feel very uneasy. Like he is staring at you. You would hate to have to move, but you will if it doesn't stop.
I suggest that you have your dad; or a brute male-relative stop by your flat, and stare back at him. It sends him a message that you have told someone, and they will be looking out for you. He'll also get the message that they know what he's doing. If he doesn't back-off, you may need to start searching for another place.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (22 April 2014):
I don't think you need a man's point if view, you need to talk with him, probably with a note. You should also see if he has a boss. If he's the owner you may end up having to move to prevent it since staring is inappropriate, not illegal.
But you should write him an email that gently tells him that his staring makes you feel uncomfortable and you'd like it to stop. If it doesn't or if he starts harrassing you after, talk with his boss (owner or property manager).
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