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writes:I have a little problem....There's this guy I know but right now he's in jail. When he gets out he is going to sign up for the Marines and then he'll get deported to San Diego, CA. He said he wants me to go with him. I've know him for around 5-6 years now. I'll be 18 when he gets out of jail. He's telling my cousin that he wants to be with me and that we are going to get together. He's kinda a playboy. So my question is : If he says he wants me to be with him and he wants me to move with him does that mean he's trying to give up him days of girl hopping or is he just trying to get me in the sack?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2006): What Dr. Psych and Bev have written, is right on target! Yes, he wants to have sex, if he's been in jail! No, he might NOT change his bed-hopping ways. With a criminal record, its rather iffy whether the Marines would accept him. If not, then what would he do? It may be unfair, but it is a fact that ex-offenders often find it hard to get gainful employment.
You're only 18 and you've known him about six years already. There is NO WAY you should move with him! No way. In fact, I wouldn't even date him. You can do much better than this - as Bev said, he has to prove that he's a reformed character, and clean and honest, with a proper job!
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (24 June 2006):
 He's in jail and hasn't had sex with a lady...any lady...for a while! It is only natural that a playboy would want to line up some 'love action' on the outside to give him something to look forward to. At 18 your world is at your feet - sure you may like this guy but why not just keep in touch casually with him on the outside and see what happens! He may not get into the Marines if he has a criminal record, he may not even try to join (some men think if they promise you a 'uniform' then you go weak at the knees!) and he may reoffend (lets face it, the reoffending rate of ex-prisoners is staggering). He may come out a changed man and keep his nose clean, but surely you would like to know for sure before you up sticks and run across the country after him? Who wants to be stuck with a bed hopping jail bird at 18 (or any age). Keep your self respect, sit back and watch what he does from a suitable distance...and keep out of his bedroom until he has proved himself worthy of you!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (24 June 2006):
 In the sack. No question. Don't believe a guy who's about to get out of prison, because he'll have been deprived of female company for a long period.
Prisoners tend to be excellent at saying things you want to hear, and at almost-18 you'll be in his crosshairs because you'll still be fairly naive. Be VERY cautious. Don't do anything with him until you've known him outside of prison for at least a year. And don't believe a word he says or writes until he's clean and has proved himself honest.
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