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writes:I put a question in the other day about my husband watching porn [just a gut feeling i had] Well surprise surprise my gut feeling was right. I found 19 porn cd's in his work bag today, so its not very pleasant in my home at the moment. Thanks to all who tried to help but now the trust has gone yet again, I dont see any reason to hang on to the lies or deceipt any more
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reader, willow73 +, writes (21 September 2007):
 Hi there lonelynights,
i am sorry to here that your instincts were right. but from your previous post it seemed to me that he was more than likely still viewing porn, i should know having been in the same possition as you.
don't quite know what the answer is for this i'm still trying to regain trust in my partner and unfortunatly i still feel better when i'm not around him which isn't a good sign. iv'e been feeling completely different about my partner for the past 18mths and it hasn't got better.all i can say is when the trust is truely gone maybe then you never get it back.
good luck to you,
you know where i am if you want to talk.
willow73
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (21 September 2007):
 if this is the only thing he has "lied" about it's probably because he knew how you'd react which in't justifying it but to be hoinest, it's more uncommon to find a man who doesn't have a stash of porn. it's not a crime or a guilty secret to watch porn, alot of men (and women) watch it, there's nothing wrong with it.i think you need to lay off your husband a little, afteral, there are a million worse things he could have done and as for the trust issues, you were going through his bag, his personal space for something for trivial. i wouldn't have told you if i was him either because he knew what to expect, a blazing row. you're wither a prude who doesn't like to talk about the obvious or you think your husband doesn't pleaseue himself because he's got you. all man have there moments to themselves and there is no harm in it.
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reader, Uncle_Phil +, writes (21 September 2007):
 It's generally a harmless pastime that few women seem to understand. Why not suggest watching it with him? You might get to like it - I know a couple of women that get turned on by it.If it should happen that you end up confiscating it from him, could you send it on to me? I'll pay the postage.
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