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writes:Okay I just need some advice/pick me ups...I am 4 months preg with a 2 yr old and a 1yr old and the man if thats what u would call him thier Dad, my Sign.Other, supposed to be my Best Friend walked out the door to work one day and never came back...Everytime I went to get some kind of explanation he would start yelling and hang up. Now my everyone I know calls me a "trophy wife" I am a good God Fearing women. I am at a loss as of what to do I am trying to accept this for what it is. But I was in love..we have had our ups and downs...but to walk out and wait 2 weeks b4 seeing your children much less calling. I dunno. In the meantime our house was robbed did he come to help...NO. Now don't call me stupid I am the mother to his children and I do love him...Just need someones else's view. He did finally tell me there was someone else but it didnt "work out and she doesnt call him" and it started 2 weeks ago *he walked out 2 weeks ago* and he was acting funny b4 that. Guess love is blind.
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reader, Nubile  +, writes (6 July 2009):
Take a deep breath... hug your kids... cry a lot... go to church or synagogue, join a support group, and see a lawyer. Even if you don't think it's necessary. Most lawyers will give you a one hour free consultation, and at least give you an idea of how to proceed. You will go through a lot in the next couple years as you grieve the relationship. I am now six years after mine walked out on me, and I still don't feel whole. But, I am happy and have grown a lot too. There are times when I still miss him (the old him, the good him) I feel bad that my kids don't have a dad... but we are much better off and stronger without him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2008): Honey! Ijust went through the same thing. I had a 2 year old and a seven month old. He took allthe money and left me for a girl he knew for ten weeks! The thrill. The challange. The addiction. Things got tight . It was work.He came back and left me for her four times in a year! I thought i would die! He is leaving again today. Some men are damaged and abuse woman emotionally for fun. He went to counceling he went to church. But he is narsaastic. I am down but not forever. Its har. I was madley in love for our entire marraage and even aftger his girlfrined called me. He stole money and went through my lifes savings. Im cute, im sexy, im a good person, i go to chruch, i am a giving person. He usedme until there was nothing left . He is a very unhappy maninside and refused to get continues help. Move on i did this for 8 months and only got taken advantage of worse and abussed more and humiliated more. My love was deep and true. His was a fantasy that he was board with. Its not you its him. It wont change!
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (21 May 2008):
 In my opinion, it's time to prepare yourself to be a singe mommy. Millions of mama's do it, so can you. It's better than dealing with this jackass (is what I'd call him). So many ladies go after the "challange", the guy that makes it difficult to love him, and they always get crushed like no bodies business. Prepare yourself by gathering a good support group, family and friends, to help with the kids, and the childbirth. Make a plan to have good bay sitters lined up so you can work and support your family. This guy dosnt care for you or the kids. THIS IS AN OPINION BASED ON YOUR POST, so if I am missing something, I appologise. If my husband did that to me, I would have made sure to grab the kids, and our things, and not be there when he decided to come home. I'd have divorce papers on the table for him to sign and I'd laugh at him when he told me his mistress dosnt even want him. I'm a tough lady, however, and have done this before, and I'm so glad I did because I am now married to a man that KNOWS I'm a trophy wife, and KNOWS that if he screwed it up, it would be his loss. I love him. He's also a great dad to my son and our daughter. Don't you want one of those? Drop this guy like a bad habit! Good luck.
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reader, shellycammon +, writes (21 May 2008):
THIS IS A TOUGH ONE! i know what your going through my ex husband did the same thing, it was hard because i was a stay at home mom and he just left me and turned off all the credit cards and froze the bank accounts. that being said i was fortunate enough to have my mother i moved in with her got a job, filed for alimony and child support and a divorce. about 2 months after i filed i started recieving benifits which helped me greatly. i advise you to do the same thing, even if you do "reconcile" wtih him at least this way you will be able to support your children on your own. you may need a marriage counselor eventually if you do decide to fix your marriage. Eventually he will wise up like my ex did and realize that the grass isnt always greener on the other side. but by that point you will already have shown him that you are a strong woman and dont really need him. be strong.
xoxo
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