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writes:Well I've been with my husband for 8 years and for the past 5 someone is always here and it's got to the point he don't touch me and he don't have a desire for sex but he waits for me to take a bath or if I'm still in bed he calls one of my friends and talks to her and always asks about her and if she's here at the house and I leave the room he whispers to her.I've confronted both of them and don't get a reply accept you are seeing things. What should I do? He says he loves me and we need more foreplay in the bedroom but he's always interested in other women's lives and rubs their shoulders and says it will be ok. Does that seem normable
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): You have received some great advice. I think you have to be careful of this so called friendhip. Something does not sound good and I suggest you distance yourself from this particular friend for sometime as Bugs also suggested. In fact it might be a good idea to tell her that you want quality time with your husband alone. The same to him, should he ask about her or any other of your friends, tell him no, you are devoting quality time to him and give yourselves the opportunity to reignite your sex life.
Start planning things for the two of you and organise a few nice romantic evenings at home as a surprise.
It is important that you do have a very good talk to him and tell him blatantly that you do not approve of his whispering conversations with your firend,(if there is nothing to hide, why whisper?)But I would leave that for a few days and first monitor there reaction when you start keeping your friend/s at a distance. Then, if the conversations does continue, talk to him about it.
David Wilkerson said: "Love is not something you feel. It is something you do".
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): A good friend would never do this to you.Let me assure you on that.We women have honor too.Just that its not spoken about much.
How does she enter the house?As your friend?
Cut down on that first.Find a way to stop her from coming to your home.
With in days you will come to know the truth.Your husband will definitely ask why she is not coming to your home.
A loyal guy wouldn't care about which one of your girl friends comes to your home and which one doesn't.
Something is definitely fishy here.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (18 December 2008):
 I'd lay down the law if I were you. He is definitely is out of line. I also would never let the friend be alone with your husband. Meet up with your friends away from home. You guys need to see if you can get your sex life back on track, once you remove the girlfriends you can focus on that.
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