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writes:I've been married for 30 yrs or more. My husband is a good man i wouldn't want to hurt him. I just want to be alone right now. I want to leave freely for awhile. Any suggestions? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2010): Yes, clear up all your financial issues, don't get mean, leave his retirement intact... pay your fair share of the bills, buy him out of the house... make up the pain that you're about to put him through by not getting greedy.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (6 June 2010):
 Yes,suggest to him a trial separation and get your own pad. Give it 6 months initially, and extend it to a year if you feel you need to. After 1 year, if you still don't want to be married, file for divorce and both of you can move on. The separation will give you time to clear you head and see what it's like to on your own without doing any permanent damage (like a divorce) and you can always go back if your husband is patient and willing to accept these arrangements. Good luck.
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reader, Universe Man +, writes (6 June 2010):
Well, the obvious thing is to move out and be separated for a while. Other than that, you could just tell him you need "space" or "alone time" or whatever you want to call it and just try to work it out. Maybe separate bedrooms? Separate vacations? Nights out with friends?
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