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writes: My husband never wants intimacy. It started a few years ago, and I wanted to leave, but it is a 20 more year marriage, with children. It's not easy to throw it away, especially we have lots of problems too with children too. So it is not too happy anyways. So we went to therapy 5 years ago, but they could just say, he must be psychologically disturbed, but never went further.Now, he never even touches or looks at me. He doesn't want to leave me, but he is not looking for solutions at all. He is keeping me in confusion....I have these choices. 1. Leave. 2. just accept it, that there are no answers. 3. i demand for answers. What should I chose? Reply to this Question
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reader, JDinCali  +, writes (18 February 2011):
 Since your husband isn't being intimate, then maybe putting some adventure into your lives will bring out it out. Do something together that you normally don't do. Change up your routines.
Maybe start going on walks together, hikes, then going to destinations and doing more activities. Dancing is a good way to keep romance in a relationship.
Try to involve him and if he refuses then get some family or friends to join-in with you. Maybe after seeing how much fun it is for you to try different things he'll become interested, definitely always invite him.
Help him remember why you got married, the good times, what you two have that's compatible.
Hope this helps! Take care.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 February 2011):
 You need to talk to him, tell him exactly how you feel and tell him you are willing to listen to his problems and help him work them out but explain to him that if things dont change then you are going to file for divorce and give it six months for things to improve. Hopefully this will show him you are serious about leaving and he will deal with his issues. Goodluck Dear.
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