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writes:My husband left me three weeks ago and has told me he is not in love with me anymore, what can i do?? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): My husband done the same thing about 5 weeks ago, but we had had a few problems, but nothing that i thought we serious, he went away for the weekend and when he came back he started a row and then told me was not in love with me! Have found out since he is seeing someone that he met on the weekend away! Even though he says just friendship which i do not believe in a million years! He has broken my heart and not sure how to recover! But takign each day by day some days good some really bad!
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reader, chica_23  +, writes (5 January 2008):
well girl. what can you do?? not much, except move on with life. He was a jerk, as to leave that way and break your heart. So you need to move on with life, and think, i dont need him to be happy i was too good for him anyways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2007): My husband left me on 11/16/07. I had no idea. I thought the marriage was great. I found out he went to NY to see a co-worker that is 27 and he is staying with her. I know this is a very hard time for you. I am feeling very lonely and I have no idea who I am without him. Just know that we can get through this difficult time. I am not in a good place at this time to help you but just know you’re not alone.
Please take care
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reader, Dizzy1 +, writes (30 December 2007):
This happened to me a few weeks ago and I was gutted, but there isn't a lot you can do, if he isn't coming back. Only he can make that decision.
If you have children, it is imperative that you don't neglect them as they will be hurting too.
You have to try to talk to him, but if he won't, as mine won't, then, it's a waiting game, unless you decide to move on. I was in shock for weeks, but now, my ex has changed his whole wardrobe, goes out till all hours, lives with his parents and is dating someone from a previous life. Definitely, some sort of crisis, but it is his crisis and I have to move on with my kids, as he isn't that interested in them, either. It is hard, but it does become a little easier, over time. My time over the last few weeks, has allowed me to see the problems that I didn't realise were there.
I'm afraid that if he won't accept counselling, you have to accept that he has moved on and look to do so, yourself.
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reader, baby duck + ♥, writes (29 December 2007):
 Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and move along.
The thing is, you are so focused on his feelings and how you can change them, that you're missing what you have power over: you.
What are your feelings? Hurt, of course. Baffled, I'm sure. How about pissed off? You're not there yet, huh? You will be. Journal. Get to know yourself.
If he decides he had a midlife crisis and wants you back, you may have decided that he did you a huge favor ... and that you don't want him back, thanks anyway.
Perhaps after some healing and growing, you'd like to have a relationship with a man that is adult enough to communicate with you. When someone just wakes up one day and says, "See ya", he hasn't got a freaking clue what's going on in his own head. Well, maybe he should have been a bit more tender, a bit more loving, before dumping you.
You deserve better.
Best wishes.
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