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writes:dear cupid...my husband lies in every single thing and makes me feel that I'm going crazy that he never said things or never does anything. i think he is cheating on me and i know he never loved me but i do love him so much. I dont know what to do... Reply to this Question
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reader, crabgoat  +, writes (22 September 2010):
Making you think you are crazy is his way of deflecting the issue at hand...."his cheating". Also his way of confusing youI agree with "sugarbuns" he is Mind F......You". If you need proof, buy a tape recorder, make notes of dates and times. Get the goods on him!! Grow a back-bone and refuse to be a doormat for him to wipe his feet on!! He knows you love him and that is why he behaves like an ass...wipe...oops!!Every woman and man deserves to treated with respect. You are young and have time to choose a different path in matters of the heart. Yes, you will grieve at the loss, its natural. But once you have reached the point that when you cry and the tears no longer run down cheeks you are ready to move on. To make room for the MAN who is going to cherish, love you and be devoted to only you. Love is kind and generous. Do not let some worthless man take that form you.That's my advice to you. I hope you heed it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2010): Just out of thid set up with a joker. Has he called u paranoid yet? Calls it mental abuse when u want a simple answer? Maybe answers a question with an allegation? No he doesnt love u,even if he thinks he does. U r going to end up forever miserable.
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reader, Myrrh +, writes (21 September 2010):
 You might love him but you must love yourself more. You deserve to be treated much better. Hes definately a liar and not a very good one. So when you catch him lying he denies it. Talks bs to cover his tracks, leaves you feeling confused. Then tries making you think youre crazy. Its one of the oldest tricks in the book! But have confidence in yourself. You are far brighter than he will ever be. If you dont want to leave him, start keeping a journal. Note things that dont ring true. Record what he said and when. Then when his stories change you can get the journal out and recite his previous words to him. That will physically demonstrate to him what a liar he is and that you are onto him. Then tell him to shape up or ship out, because you arent stupid and youve had enough of his lies. Hope things work out ok x
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (21 September 2010):
 I wouldn't hesitate to ditch his ass. You cannot have a good marriage unless both of you are in love with each other. He's playing mind games with you and let me tell you, that not only wears you out emotionally, but it's a mental mind f*** that will affect your health over time. Dump this loser, he's not worth all this effort. You will get over him and find love again. Real love, not an illusion. I wish you the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2010): As much as you love him you have to walk away,he will take everything you ever was and laugh in your face
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reader, mselu08 +, writes (21 September 2010):
I'm sorry you are going through this, but why would you have married someone who you know never loved you? I know you say you love him, but you deserve someone who loves you just the same. If he is turning the situation around on you and making you seem like the crazy one, then he definitely is hiding something. You can't make someone love you or not cheat on you or not lie to you. That doesn't mean you are less of a woman. That means he is a jerk and doesn't deserve you. You are still young and have time to find someone who will treat you like you deserve to be treated. So do yourself a favor and leave him.
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