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We're going to get married, but I don't know about his past!

Q.   So I have been with My Fiance for 3 years now and I dont know anything about his past relationships or the other girls in his past all i know is that he was a bit of a player before his car accident he never likes to talk about that part of his past ...

A.   12 February 2011: Take it from someone who knows, you don't want to know! Leave the past in the past. You could be lucky like me and have a fiance that loves to brag about his not so clean track record. It makes me sick. All this will do is create images in your mind ... (read in full...)

My mistress come up with all kinds of excuses to avoid moving in with me..

Q.   This is a long story but i will try to keep short.. I am in a relationship and have been for some years. For the last 6 years i have been seeing a married woman whom i love dearly.. For information purposes my home relationship has been over for th...

A.   10 February 2011: I think you're doing the right thing by ending the relationship. You should tell her it's over until she makes a decision to leave him for good. You also need to make an honest man out of yourself and end your marriage as well. You said that your ... (read in full...)

How often do women wear wedding rings when they're not married?

Q.   I have a question. How often do women wear wedding rings when they're not married? I know why they do it. To scare away guys who want to ask them out, or annoy them with sexual advances. It's a sneaky trick. I'm thinking of doing it myself to kee...

A.   8 February 2011: I've never heard of a guy wearing a wedding ring to keep women away. I am a female and I wore a wedding ring and it didn't really work. You see, wearing a wedding ring might keep respectful women away, but a ring also attracts sleezy, homewrecking ... (read in full...)

How do you become a trophy wife?

Q.   What do you do to become a trophy wife? Is it just about looks? Or is it if your a wonderfull wife and mom? Thanks for your time....

A.   5 February 2011: Yeah, a trophy wife isn't a good thing. Think about what a "trophy" is. It's a prize that he won that sits on the shelf and is only taken down in order to brag to his friends.... (read in full...)

Is it normal to feel some jealousy towards your boyfriend's friends and family?

Q.   I'm currently in a relationship, but like all it has some issues. Is it normal to feel some jealously towards your boyfriend's friends and family? I feel really bad about it, but I just feel rejected sometimes. For example, I live with him and he ...

A.   3 February 2011: The only thing I can come up with is that maybe it's a cultural thing for him to put his family first? But that gives him no right to treat you badly. Him calling you "psycho" and that you need a wuss for a boyfriend hits very close to home for me. ... (read in full...)

My relationship is a never-ending battle

Q.   I have been married to my husband for almost two years. It seems like it is a fight just to stay together though. It started when i was pregnant with our daughter. I worked and was going to college, both full time. During my maternity leave, I was ...

A.   3 February 2011: Honey, you are not overreacting one bit! He doesn't work, yet your daughter goes to daycare? Every single thing that you said he does is completely unacceptable. I think you should give him an ultimatum. Either he agrees to go to counseling, or ... (read in full...)

I feel so much guilt for doing this!

Q.   I have a gf but we haven't had sex in a while she is out of town ... I miss it and sometimes i watch porn and porn videos of gays come out .... so today there is someone that i didnt know and we were talking on the internet and he asked me if i wa...

A.   3 February 2011: If you are in love with your girlfriend and see this as a long term deal, then you must come clean and tell her. If not, then you need to end things with her. What you did was a huge thing, and I'm sure you don't want that getting out to people. If ... (read in full...)

Why is he too casual? Is he just not into me?

Q.   I have been dating someone for 7 weeks, we are both 27 and have been sleeping together for 4 weeks. (it was a bit soon i know!) We both work 10 hour days, 5 days per week. My question is, he seems too casual and i wonder if its a case of "he's just ...

A.   3 February 2011: I completely understand how you feel. Do yourself a favor while the relationship is still new: make yourself unavailable. When he says he can't see you Thursday night because he has plans, tell him something like " No big deal! I have a dinner date ... (read in full...)

Help!!! Is my boyfriend lying to me?

Q.   What do you think? is my boyfriend lying to me? did he sleep with her? My boyfriend said he wanted a break from our relationship to clear his head. I gave him space. He rang me lots, left me voice messages and when he still couldn't reach me he em...

A.   3 February 2011: This is a difficult situation. I think it is very good that he came clean to you and told you the truth. My boyfriend pulled the "i need some space" crap and begged me back too. But I had to find out from someone else that he had slept with his ex ... (read in full...)

My fiance doesn't appreciate me

Q.   I'm engaged to this guy I have been dating for 3 years. I love him very much, but a lot of things that he does, or doesn't do, makes me very unhappy. He is a firefighter. So he works 10 days a month. Because these are 24 hour shifts, he argues that ...

A.   11 November 2010: Thank you. All of you have very good advice. I know in my heart that he won't change, and I have no choice but to leave. The hard part is finding the strength to do it. Thank you everyone. ... (read in full...)

My fiance doesn't appreciate me

Q.   I'm engaged to this guy I have been dating for 3 years. I love him very much, but a lot of things that he does, or doesn't do, makes me very unhappy. He is a firefighter. So he works 10 days a month. Because these are 24 hour shifts, he argues that ...

A.   11 November 2010: To clear up the "firefighter" thing, we live in an area where the most excitement he gets is picking a senior citizen up off the floor. He didn't take this job for the satisfaction of helping people. He took it for all of the vacation time. I thi... (read in full...)

Nightmares About my Boyfriend's Past Have Completely Invaded My Mind.

Q.   Sorry this is long, but I am in real need of help. My boyfriend used to go out every night last summer, either to a house party or a night club with his friends. In September of that year we met, and began dating. I have never been a jealous p...

A.   3 November 2010: You seem like a good girl with high morals. You have every right to worry about his past. A guy doesn't want to date an easy girl. So why would a girl want to date an easy guy. Throw out the double standard. It doesn't exist anymore. I guess wh... (read in full...)

I have no idea what to do with my husband's best female friend.

Q.   I am married to a wonderful and caring man and have a good marriage. But when it comes to his female best friend, he becomes her protector and caused stress to our marriage. When I met him 10 years ago, she was already in his life for 10 year...

A.   3 November 2010: Wow. I am completely dumbfounded. I am so sorry you have to go through this. When I was dating my fiance, I had a best guy friend who professed his love for me. I had no feelings for my friend, but out of respect for my fiance, I cut off all contact ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's behavior has turned me into a clingy, obsessed person. I hate that!

Q.   My boyfriend messed me around for a year, flirting with girls, metting up with his ex in secret. We talked it through and we're still going out, but it has turned me into a clingy, obsessed and overthoughtful person. And I HATE that. I hate what I ...

A.   1 November 2010: I know every situation is different, but I'll tell you mine. After 6 months of dating my boyfriend, he cheated on me. Not only did he cheat, but he lied and went back and forth between me and the other girl for months. I forgave him, and we got back ... (read in full...)

My fiance got arrested, am I being selfish?

Q.   My fiance got into some trouble with the law a few days ago. We are all pretty upset about it, including him. When we went to bail him out of jail, he went straight to his dad and hugged him for minutes and broke down. He hugged me for about 5 ...

A.   24 October 2010: Thank you for your responses. I am being involved. I'm looking into lawyers, I'm the one talking him down and being the level headed, strong person looking for solutions while his mom is being irrationally hysterical and only making matters worse. ... (read in full...)

My fiance got arrested, am I being selfish?

Q.   My fiance got into some trouble with the law a few days ago. We are all pretty upset about it, including him. When we went to bail him out of jail, he went straight to his dad and hugged him for minutes and broke down. He hugged me for about 5 ...

A.   24 October 2010: I don't want to say specifically. We're all paranoid at this point. All I'll say is his "friend" set him up in order to get himself out of trouble. My fiance is a good guy and has never been in that kind of trouble before. ... (read in full...)

My husband is trying to make out I'm crazy!

Q.   dear cupid... my husband lies in every single thing and makes me feel that I'm going crazy that he never said things or never does anything. i think he is cheating on me and i know he never loved me but i do love him so much. I dont know what to ...

A.   21 September 2010: I'm sorry you are going through this, but why would you have married someone who you know never loved you? I know you say you love him, but you deserve someone who loves you just the same. If he is turning the situation around on you and making you ... (read in full...)

Long story, Am I just in the friend zone? please don't tell me to move on!

Q.   My ex-boyfriend's name is Kevin and he is quite a bit older than me (10 years and 4 months if you will). He and I had been on and off for 2 years because the timing was never quite right with us (I was coming out of an engagement and he is VERY ind...

A.   13 September 2010: I'm sorry but he's clearly not into you. Maybe you should read your story back to yourself and pretend it's someone else writing it. It's completely clear. You have to move on. You're just going to look pathetic to him if you keep pursuing him. That ... (read in full...)

I have no respect for myself after cheating on my beautiful wife... help!

Q.   hi everyone, i am 23 years old nd really don't know from where to start. I love my wife more than myself i'd give her my sight, i tried my best make all her dreams come true, everything she has dreamt of except one thing, a faithful husband! ...

A.   13 September 2010: You have to tell your wife. She deserves to know the truth and you will not be at peace with yourself until you tell her. You're a dirt bag but at least you feel guilty about it. Maybe she will forgive you, maybe she won't. But that should be up to ... (read in full...)

My wife just wants oral!

Q.   My wife does not want intercourse or me to touch her, she only wants to do oral to me? she used to never want to do that at all? It has went on for months. I dont know what to think?...

A.   13 September 2010: She doesn't want to have sex. For some reason she has lost her sex drive and interest in having sex. It could be because she has developed a self image problem, or it could be a hormone problem. The good news is, by giving you oral sex, she is still ... (read in full...)

Guys turn me on, am I gay?

Q.   I'm a 15 year old guy, and I'm pretty much only turned on by gay porn, or pictures of naked guys. I used to watch straight porn and when I was 12 I messed around with a girl (we gave each other handjobs and even tried to have sex once) and enjoyed ...

A.   23 February 2010: I think that maybe when you got caught messing around with a girl and you got into a lot of trouble, you felt ashamed of what you were doing. So subconsciously, you turned to gay porn because you are ashamed of getting caught with a girl. You were ... (read in full...)

I walked in on my best friend having sex and now he won't talk to me.

Q.   This is a bit long, sorry there is some background here that needs to be explained. My ex and I broke up a year ago. After a lot of ups and downs we managed to stay friends. He had hit on me from time to time, and I didn't sleep with hi...

A.   23 February 2010: You did absolutely nothing wrong. All you did was take him up on his offer. I believe your friend has a psychological addiction to sex. This addiction of which he is ashamed of. He lies to you because he doesn't want anyone to know he has a problem. ... (read in full...)

Was kissing my teacher on the cheek a bit too much?

Q.   So, my teacher is like... more than a teacher to me. He is my mentor. He has done a lot for me and helped me so much in life situations and how I can deal with them. Because of that, he has made me a happier person than how I used to be (which was a ...

A.   21 February 2010: Female anon- You are the reason many innocent men go to jail for being accused of sexual misbehavior with a minor. How was he supposed to prevent her from kissing him on the cheek? Should he have punched her in the face? The only reason I believe ... (read in full...)

I had sex with a bodybuilder!

Q.   Hi everyone ..thanks for reading , Im in a spot here and I really dont know what to do ! I had always wanted to go to bed with one of those really BIG body builder guys at the gym , just watching them always got me aroused . Then one...

A.   21 February 2010: Ok, let me get this straight. You cheated on your boyfriend for some fantasy. Then you lied to your boyfriend about cheating and now YOU are withholding sex from HIM because he won't believe your lie?? You are a disgusting, heartless person. And if ... (read in full...)

He doesn't want love, he just wants sex!

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. We are both in our late 20's. One of my problems is that he wants to have sex all of the time but is not affectionate. His complaint is that our sex life has become boring. He wants to have ...

A.   21 February 2010: Thank all of you for the advice. It was very helpful and I will definitely talk to him as soon as the opportunity presents itself. To RainorFire: I left my last boyfriend for various reasons including lack of ambition, which is more important to me ... (read in full...)

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