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51-59,
*ost2love
writes:Ive been with my husband for 10yrs now and it seems he loves me one minute and the next is bothered by me.. We have no kids together, but he has 3 kids(1 son, 2 daughters) from 2 different moms. Now the girls mom hasnt given me any problems, but the son's mom that lives in another state and now married doesnt seem to want to let go. And it might go both ways. Well Ive caught their inappropriate texting and I was told by my husband that he understood my feelings and wouldnt do it again.. Well you know how that goes, I just caught his IM's.. He doesnt know I know, but he is 40 and im 38.. (X is 32) How long is this going to play out? I dont know what to do or how to approach this.. I know he is doing a lot better financially since he was with her and we have a lot of nice things. Maybe she is seeing dollar signs.. I just dont know what to do at this point???
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reader, lost2love +, writes (8 December 2011):
lost2love is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo So_Very_Confused:
Now I see where you got the idea of money from.. I didnt title this. I title it the X Blues..
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reader, lost2love +, writes (8 December 2011):
lost2love is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo So_Very_Confused: not really hoping, I was just thinking it could be, because her husband is almost 50 & he pays for everything.. She doesnt work.. She is pretty attractive & her husband(I know this is mean) but is 5'6 about 300lbs in the belly & looks like he is 70. My husband is 5'10, 40 but looks 30, nice build & very attractive. plus they have a history together.. Not very long(4yrs) but they sure act like it was 20. I love my husband & I know we dont have any kids together, but I dont like to compete, shouldnt have to.. I just feel I have no say so when it comes to the mothers.. I just dont know what to say or think of this cituation.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 December 2011):
 So if he's already paying excessive amounts of money to the woman for his child and you think the texting is inappropriate, why do you think it's about money... or is that your hope?
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reader, lost2love +, writes (8 December 2011):
lost2love is verified as being by the original poster of the question[Mod Note: Questions and answers can take a couple to hours to be moderated if there are no moderators online at the time, apologies for you thinking your initial reply didn't get through it was just in a queue](I've just typed a whole response that didnt got thru, so bare w/me so I can remember what I had said :( )To NotDoneYet: I've already done exactly that and I think it freaked her out so she told my husband and I think he comforted her. I think he tells us both what we want to hear.To So_Very_Confused: He only gets to see his 14yr old son one month out of every year (but talks to him on the phn everyday,likes to help w/his homework). Remembered I mentioned his son lives out of state and the son's mom is very controlling w/how much time my husband sees him. My husband pays above and beyond for his son(not court ordered). He pays for his sons health, dental, vision, doctor appts, school supplies, school clothes, summer clothes, cell phn bill, every atempted sports equip., music (lessons/guitor/amps) and latest gagets. This kid has 4 game stations and everything that goes w/it, including tv (xbox, playstation, wii) plus he deposits money in the moms bank account every month on top of everything he pays for and buys thru out the year. He treats his children like gold, I wish he was the father to my daughter which paid nothing(now 19yr)So that doesnt help or mean anything...
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reader, lost2love +, writes (8 December 2011):
lost2love is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo NotDoneyet: Yes I've already done exactly that.. This is #2. I was even nice to her about it.. She freaked and told my husband, but I think he just comforter her.. Probable just told us both what we wanted to hear..To So_very_confused: He only gets to see his 14yr old one month out of the year.. Remembered I mentioned the son lives out of state and she is very controling of how much my husband gets to see him.. And My husband pays above and beyond (not court ordered)He pays for his sons health, dental, vision, doctor appts, every attempted sports equip., school clothes, summer clothes, music, the latest gagets... This kid has 4 game stations and everything that goes w/it(xbox, playstation, wii)plus my husband deposits in her bank account money monthly, so that doesnt mean anything or help..
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 December 2011):
Well I need more info…. Does he see this child? Does he pay child support (he should be doing both)… if his income has improved dramatically since the last child support modification perhaps he should be paying more to support his child….
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