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My husband doesn't care to show me affection.

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Question - (12 October 2007) 7 Answers - (Newest, 21 March 2008)
A female United States age 51-59, anonymous writes:

i have been married for only 8mo and my husband shows very little affection, though i have told him he doesn't seem to care

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008):

well im sorry to hear that, but i think that since its so early in the marriage sometimes he resorts back to his ways being single, for instance my hnsband (ive been married for 1yr) when he has a long day just comes home eats n turns on the tv, he doenst care to have a chat with me, or hug me or cuddle or anything, and ofcourse sex would be out the window! so maybe your hubby does that too..and i think in that way he ignores me and doesnt care..so i can relate

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A female reader, meg77 United States +, writes (17 March 2008):

I wish I could give you an honest answer honey. I'm trying to figure this out myself. We've only been married for 5 years and I don't know where the love has goen. Help me too if u get an answer.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2007):

as to tommy's reply thats bullshit,what the hell does a low sex drive got to do with anything if ur man isnt giving u affection there is obviously a problem.she shouldnt just have to get used to it,go see if ur husband would be willin to go to marriage counsling sweetie i know how u feel i have the same problem and his sex drive is fine he just has a problem in the affection department.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2007):

What do you mean by no affection? Do you have sex regulary? Does he hold you in bed? I am married too & he has always just been the kind of person that can't show affection..I knew that & I don't plan on chnging him. He & I have sex almost ev. night & he cuddles me at night or whatever & he tickles me sometimes, but nothing else...ever. I am o.k. with it though. I also have a hard time expressing affection.

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (12 October 2007):

kenny agony auntYou can't go on like this, a marriage can't thrive with one person giving so little love & affection. I really feel like you have to be firmer when you talk to him, tell him that that you are really unhappy with his lack of affection and it has got to stop. If he does not change you may want to consider leaving.

All the best x

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A female reader, miss e United Kingdom +, writes (12 October 2007):

I am sorry to hear that you are going through a difficult time.

Has he only recently started behaving like he doesnt care? it could just be that now you're married the novelty has gone out of the window and it has hit home that a marriage is a partnership that takes a lot of effort to make it work on both sides of the door...your husband is coming across as cold and careless maybe you should have a talk with him go out to dinner or something and tell him how it makes your heart break when he talks to you like dirt and acts like he doesn't care...ask him if there's anything going on with him personally that would cause him stress or worry...it's very possible that he is feeling as hurt as you are...you need some direction with your marriage do you and your husband do things together? like go to the movies for example you need to make time for each other... find something you both enjoy that can bring you closer together :-) also you really do need to give each other some space too so make sure that you're not smothering each other, and if you both work you should be ok as you'll not be living on top of each other...sometimes we need to take a step back to appreciate what we have... if after all of this, you see no improvement. You should take a break apart for a few days to clear your heads, hope i could help you good luck...:-)

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A male reader, Tommy7 United States +, writes (12 October 2007):

He probablly has a low sex drive. You should have noticed this before you married. You need to get used to it or leave.

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