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My husband cheating while I'm pregnant and wants to continue to cheat!

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Question - (13 April 2012) 5 Answers - (Newest, 2 May 2012)
A female Namibia age 30-35, *oxy_lee writes:

Hi to all of u. Me(23years) and my husband(40years). I am pregnant 8 moths and 1 or 2 weeks.will be giving birth soon.

I am going to tell what happened. My mom came to stay with me and my husband to help me when i give birth with baby kaitlyn but so she had to go home for some problems and i went with coz it will only take a few days and we will come back.while i was gone my husband got two girls and bring them home. I did'nt know about it until the next morning my brother who is 15years called to tell me. I told my brother to see where the girls is staying and so he did as i told him to do.I am pregnant,stress and started to pain but everything was fine when i went to doctor. I called my husband and asked him about why and what happened,he told me that my brother is lying so I told him that my brother knows where girls is staying than he started telling me truth and asked me that i should help him and find someone to see coz he is sick cheats,watch porn. I came home next day early and wanted to go to girls coz some of my things went missing. My husband asked me not to go and he would buy me new things. So i did'nt go and we said 2 try again. After 2 days he ask me that we should rather leave everything and he will move out. We talk again coz i was crying,had pains again.now he is telling me if i want us to try again than i should leave him to go out alone when he feels that way and also leave him to watch porn on his phone.he know that i am willing to do everything to be with him he wants to show me that i will let him do whatever he wants?

I love him and would do whatever he ask but is this right for me to beg him to stay with me while he did wrong to me while i am also pregnant?

WHAT SHOULD I DO? HELP ME PLEASE PEOPLE. MY HEART IS BROKEN AND I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2012):

Hi I read your story carfully and I think that what hes doing is discusting! Wether your pregnant or not nobody should be treated the way you are being treated, and to make it worse hes made you pregnant so he can put up with the fact you aren't always going to want sex and he should be understand and FAITHFUL to you and respect your wishes.

Secondly if hes treating you like this however much you love him you should tell him what to do if hes not willing to give up his problem then more for him. You could do much better than him. It makes it hard that your preganat but you will find someone else in time that is faithful and you can trust so you won't always be worrying if hes doing something behind your back. By the sounds of it hes not going to help bring up the child and you don't need the extra stress with him acting like a pig!

I hope everything works out well for you good luck

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A female reader, Roxy_lee Namibia +, writes (16 April 2012):

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Hi to all! Thank you for all your help. Its not first time he is cheating that i found out about. The first time i found out was when we were together for 2 years,which we were married for 1 year and again when we married for 2years and now again.we are married for 3 years now and together for 4 years. We already have a girl that is 3 years old. He realy went far to bring the 2 girls to our house while i was not there and he knew that my brother was there. I only have 3 weeks to go for birth but every single day i have stress thinking about what he did. I cant go stay with my mom or sister now coz they stay 400km from me and my doctor is where i stay. Me and my husband talked and he is going to see someone today. I just dont know if i am willing to be with him after he gets some help and if he will try to be a good husband to me coz i love him alot and would want to be with him with all my heart.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2012):

Oh Babygirl I feel so bad for you, it's breaks my heart to hear he's cheating on you while carrying his child, just because he's horny doesn't give him an excuse to be with other women, he knows you can't do what he wants you to do at this time, he should be treating you like a princess.

So what does he wants to do, leave now and come back when you're able to have sex? It's a tough situation because you need him at this time, maybe I would try and put up with him to easy the pain for myself doing my pregnancy because you love him so much, let him go out along and don't put it in your mind that he's out with a woman, you're doing this for you not for him, it might hurt you worst to see him go so try and figure out what is best for you so you don't have any complications when the baby is due. Try and relax.

After the baby is born then make up your mind if you want to continue to live with his no good A$$ after all he has put you thru doing the time you needed him most. You got your sweet mom and family that will see you thru.

With lots of love

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (13 April 2012):

Honeypie agony auntDivorce his cheating ass. Get custody and sue him for support of the baby and leave him in the dust. THIS is no way for you to live.

If he wants to ACT single and screw around, let him be single.

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A female reader, LovelyLemon United States +, writes (13 April 2012):

LovelyLemon agony auntOh, honey, you should definitely leave this man. I realize that it's difficult to leave the father of your child, but he is not creating a positive and happy relationship for you, and consequently not creating a positive home for your child. Despite the difficulties, you and your baby will be better off without that kind of stress in your life.

It sounds like you and your mom are close, so maybe go stay with her until you have everything figured out. This is a lot of stress on you, so just put him on the back burner, take care of yourself and this baby that is depending on you being healthy.

Be with your family, relax, don't give your husband any chance to further stress you or hurt you. All matters should be settled after the baby is born and you are emotionally ready to face him.

Much love and Best wishes

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