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female
age
51-59,
*CARLET ROSE
writes:My husband and I have a long history of me not trusting him. Early in our marriage he was doing some stuff and he lied all the time about where he was etc. After 22 years I still go thru times of not trusting him. Sex has also not been a priority for him. Very seldom do we have sex more then once a month. and we have went many months between sex before. About 10 years ago he told me his only fantasy was for us to go to a car wash and me flash people while he watched. I finally agreed because I thought this would help our sex life. Through the years I have done this several times, after much prodding from him. It has never been my thing but I love him and it makes him very horny. I haven't done it in a few years and that's all he's been talking about this summer. He finally got the hint I wasn't going to do it so he asked if he could take me somewhere "private" so he could take pics. I agreed but then he finally made a deal to drive me to my mom's if I flashed people once more. He got the impression I was going to do it even thou I feel like I never really answered him, just led him on so he's leave me alone. So this morning he got very upset when I wouldn't go and he has decided I lied to him and is very upset. He left and won't answer my phone calls or texts. What do I do? All thru the years I have have emotional issues because of sex - often thinking he wasn't attracted to me or he was having an affair etc. At once point he did tell me that every time we have sex he thinks about me flashing. I want him to be turned on by me and because he loves me. I used to love to dress sexy when we went out but now I feel dirty. I really don't know how to handle this without ruining my marriage. I love my hubby so much and I don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2010): You sound like you are in a very unhealthy sexual relationship.
Get counseling and work out what you need to do.
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