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My guy is obsessed with anal! - Aunts... I need your thoughts!

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Question - (2 January 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 26 January 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:


My boyfriend is obsessed with anal sex. Any naughty texts I receive are always about how excited he is about "being in my ass later". I don't mind anal sex but it seems like it's all I know these days.

He does have sex with me the normal way but only almost as a warm up before anal. He just loves it so much and I can't understand the obsession. Any ladies out there experience this, or guys.. why??

Is it a control thing, I don't know? Any dirty photos he wants me to text him are also of my ass so he can get off by imagining doing it.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2009):

hi my boyfriend is the same he is obsesssed by anal sex and doesnt seem to want normal sex only if its leading up to anal. i know how you are feeling and how annoying it can be. recently Ive not allowed any anal sex and now he's started excepting the fact i dont always want anal and started having normal sex. all you have to do is talk to your bf and tell him its nicer to have normal sex and if he loves you he will listen to you and meet your needs as well as his. this doesnt mean stopping anal alltogether but just making sex good for the both of you. i used to see my bf as sexually selfish but once he understood its not always what i want and necessarily enjoy he then met my needs. good luck..dont always give him what he wants!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009):

No - Ive joked about it to him many a times that he should let me do him, but no he's not into that.

He just seems the live for ass sex.

Never known a man like it! I mean I know he loves it because he thinks it's so wrong, but I just think that because I let him have it all the time, vaginal sex just does'nt do it for him as much!

He get so excited just staring at that area. All his porn films are anal based!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (3 January 2009):

Honeypie agony auntI would talk to him about it. It that is just about all he wants to do, but not what you want to do there is a bit of lacking communication.

There are sooo many others thing you can do in the bedroom ( as I'm sure you know :) ) Make tell him that you would really like when he does to this or that..

I think a lot of the whole anal sex deal is the taboo part of it, the fact that it is "dirty, forbidden and naughty" - he might just be really glad that you like it too.

Is he interested on you doing him maybe?

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A male reader, dasonras United States +, writes (3 January 2009):

I can tell you first hand that guys will generally want to try anal sex for many reasons that I'm sure you are already aware of.

If his sexual appetite is making you uncomfortable then I advise you to let him know in a way that will not be threatening, however remain clear and direct.

Do you enjoy anal sex? First answer that. If it is no, then you need to be honest and direct with him about that. I do not think it is a control issue. Some men just have a specific sexual appetite and sex drive.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009):


talk to him tell him that you have a problem with him always thinking about anal sex tell him to chill with it..

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