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writes:I am seeing a guy for the last 12 months. Recently we have started argueing alot. He is a very jealous person, He keeps bringing up my past, of people who I have been with. He said I'm not the person he thought I was. He keeps going on and on about it and it's starting to take it's toll.. I'm not sure what to do about it. I don't want to break up with him but everytime we have an arguement he goes on about my past (which is really not that interesting. He argues louder than me and refuses to listen to me when I try and speak to him. He just calls me a liar. I have bent over backwards for him and it's still not enough. I don't know how to resolve this as he is not a reasonable person to deal with. He is a very agressive and angry person
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reader, Ms. Tanya +, writes (4 September 2006):
 As a matter of fact, this is exactly what my most recent ex boyfriend did to me, constant name calling and accusing me of cheating. Now my best advice is to do what I did sit down with him and in calm tones ask him if he expects you to keep taking this and carrying this weight forever, tell him that you want him to stop accuseing you unfairly. Ask him what he excpects you to build a time machine and not date anyone until him. Tell him that yes you went out with people in your past, and that your over them and you only love him. If he refuses to compremise and treat you fairly, then it's your choice, you;ve been more then fair to him in telling him that you don't like this, you can either stick with him and put up with this, or you can tell him that it's over and that he pushed you to far. In my case I talked to him about it and he just got worse and worse until it was to the point where he was a nearves wreck who nearly cried if I said a ex's name. And then he'd accuse me more and then not speak to me for a week and I ended up breaking it off with him. So you just need to talk and then go from there either he'll realise he's being a bastard and he needs to stop this, or he'll ignore it and continue argueing with you, and then you need to make a choice.
I'm sorry hun, guys can be the most infuriating things, you give them everything and get nothing back but a grumpy moody man who constantly accuses you of cheating. Stupid isn't it?
~Ms. Tanya
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