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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My gf is 23 and I'm 26 so we are still quite young. At the beginning of our relationship our sex lives were great. But after the first month or so of having sex every couple of days (at one point up to 3 times in one day), we've reached a point of only having sex once or twice per week. She says it's because it makes her very tired after sex.I've noticed it really does seem to affect her a lot. She literally has no energy the next day :-/ This can come about from about an hour of foreplay and 10-20mins of sex. I want to try and last longer (up to 40mins or more) but she simply asks me to come quickly stating that she just wants me to feel comfortable and not delay so long.I recognise that there's a whole host of factors that could be affecting her libido (inc. stress with her job and general fatigue). I'm also taking on board ways that I can increase the variety in our relationship (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-girlfriend-rarely-wants-to-have-sex-what.html).Perhaps initiating earlier sex could remedy the problem? We end up finishing in the early hours of the morning so I think that would play a major part in it (yes, I too have had times where I feel tired the next day after our bedroom sessions). Or perhaps a change in diet or more exercise to increase stamina?My main concern though is my gf's tiredness after each encounter...otherwise our relationship has been great. We cuddle, kiss, talk about the future together, spend quality time with each other etc.For now I'm comfortable to work on the other important aspects of our relationship like how we spend our time together and how I can make her feel relaxed when she gets home of an evening.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (20 February 2010):
 Her batteries need longer time to recharge. She needs more sleep , good food and exercise to keep up her libido.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (20 February 2010):
 I think that you've already identified several quite plausible avenues to explore. If you are up half the night then obviously that is going to effect energy levels the next day.
Your profile says that you are in China - you seem not to be Chinese but possibly your girlfriend is. If so then let her sleep more as Chinese girls need a lot of sleep. What happens when you have sex in the afternoon but not in the evening?
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reader, lizzies-t  +, writes (19 February 2010):
Aw, you sound like a darling boyfriend!
You might want to face the obvious that...(and yeah, I'm stroking your male ego)...that you might actually be good in bed which is why she's so exhausted...maybe?
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