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writes:I have a girlfriend of 1.5 yrs now. I also have a couple of ex's and three kids. Two from my first and one from my second. The kids from my second wife are friends and are close. The kids have known her for a long time. I am friends with my second ex and we still talk from time to time. We don't see each other only when it is needed and kid stuff. My new girlfriend thinks that my two boys should not have anything to do with my second ex. They are older and I have no issues with them having a relationship with her at all she is like a second mom to them. My problems is that my girlfriend will not attend any occasions that my second ex will be at. She will not budge on this at all. My second son is having a baby and wants my girlfriend to be there also but she will not attend if my second ex is there. She thinks that my second ex should not be there. I am troubled by this we are breaking up over this. I have tried to talk to her about it and asked herto understand. No way will she budge on this issue. Anyone had this happen and how can I deal with this. Reply to this Question
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reader, MamaBear  +, writes (25 June 2011):
At your age in life and with all the single and unattached women around near your age, I suggest you look for a new and more reasonable girlfriend! This is your Past and surely she knew about this before you two got so cozy. Your children and the new to-be grandchild should come high on your list of loves.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (23 June 2011):
 Making sure I understand this correctly.
One of your exwives is friends with your adult children that are not biologically hers. You have supported this.
I assume that this exwife, since you said she is like a Second Mom, was part of their parenting at some time. If you, AND your adult son support and appreciate the relationship, then your current gf is being unreasonable.
It is not her judgement to make. The relationship was there before she was.
You can not make her change her mind, it is HER problem. If she wants to break up with you because she does not agree with the nature of someone ELSE's relationship that has NOTHING to do with her...let her walk.
Best Wishes.
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