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writes:My 4 years old Girlfriend has put on weight in recent months and she thinks I have lost interest in her. Yet I have told her countless times that I haven’t and it’s just that my new position in office demands me to work harder and extend my working hours at times. She has started to lose it now but I am having no problem with her weight and I love her no matter what. Should I leave this job to spend more quality time with her? We are living together . Any help from your side would be appreciated ! Thank you! Reply to this Question
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reader, natasia  +, writes (5 November 2011):
 Let her lose the weight. If motivation that she thinks you don't like her so much now is helping her get back to normal, then don't make a big fuss. You have told her that you love her however she is. Let her do what she needs to, but also yes, I think you should find a way to make more time for her. Even just silly things like text messages and holding her all night and flowers sometimes are enough - and they aren't too time-consuming (the holding is time-efficient, as you are in bed next to her all night anyhow ; ).
Good luck with it. Sounds like she is lucky to have you!
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reader, aunt earnest  +, writes (5 November 2011):
 Even though you personally cannot be with her as much as you both would want, you can do things for her while you are apart, like send her flowers from work, write her love notes, or prepare a nice meal or something for her before you leave the house. Maybe you should avoid food related things though, because it would make her feel guilty to eat them while she is watching her weight, but she would not want to hurt your feelings buy not eating them. But anyway, girls love small things like that. It would make her feel special and loved that you are thinking of her at work. As long as you show that you love her and that work is not getting in the way of your relationship, things should go smoothly until your work calms down, and then you can spend time together again. I hope this helps!
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