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writes:My girlfriend cheated on me with my friend. i gave him her number while we were broken up but i seriously didn't think he would succeed with her. He called her and they met the next time then started spending time at her house while she was babysitting. he slept with her on her bed. she gave him head. he told me he slept with her when i called her she tried to deny sleeping with another guy. Then after more probing admitted to it. She didn't know he was my friend. She said she thought we had broken up (she slept with him so soon, longer than it took for me to sleep with her). She slept with him on 4 different occasions. When she came back to me she was saying that she see's herself with me, she wants to have my kids, etc. I don't know what to do i love her so much. She does everything for me. Cooks. buy's me stuff. gives me money. and she's pretty i don't think i can find another girlfriend as pretty as her. what should i do?..should i take her back?..should i stop talking to both of them forever?..she turned her phone off because i insulted her (i don't know if she smashed it on the wall or turned it off). I want to go and see her face to face but her mother hates me. She think's i'm arrogant. Her mothers boyfriend hates me as well. So does her friend. her brother likes me though. what do i do?...i love this girl and don't think i will ever find another girl i could love as much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): I agree with Lupa-K as well as Keria at the same time. First, she's so easily swayed by her own libido, by jumping from one to the next so easily. That says a lot about how solid her feelings for you were, no matter how arrogant you were before. However, like Keria, you DID supposedly give her the impression you two had broken up and you DID give your friend her number. If indeed you felt she cheated on you, which in my opinion, she didn't; you have to see that you were the catalyst to what they have done together, regardless of how you are feeling now.
In short, she did not cheat on you. However, she did easily move from one lover to the next, reacting on her libido quite quickly. Whether you want to take her back or not, no one here has an accurate take on that. Only you can gauge that on your own.
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (26 April 2007):
 There was no cheating involved here. The two of you were broken up, and you are the one that suggested he go after her! What exactly did you think you were playing at? She was allowed to date, sleep with or whatever she wanted with any other guys because the two of you were not together. She may have done it too fast and that speaks very loudly of her character, or lack thereof, but she was not cheating. Shes pretty and she gives you money? You should not be accepting money from her! Get a job and get your own money! I have serious doubts about this relationship. I think it is time for you both to move on.
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reader, Keria +, writes (26 April 2007):
She didn't "cheat" on you! You gave the guy her phonenumber! You just said it was while you were broken up. My god! Do you think you own her, so that she can't have the freedom to spend time with a guy even while you are broken up? I don't think she should take YOU back! She's right, you ARE arrogant! You don't OWN her for god's sake!
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reader, lupa-k +, writes (26 April 2007):
No, I don't think that you should take her back. The fact that she was prepared to jump into bed with someone else so quickly after the relationship ended suggests, regardless of knowing he was your friend, she didn't exactly have that much concern for you. Looks and doing things for you arent arrogant, and I'm sure that you can move on and succeed elsewhere.
As for your friend, what he did was really low because he did know that it was your ex and you were hurting over it, so I certainly wouldnt give him the time of day
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): frist no move on and second money and looks are not everything if she slept with him 4 times than she had no guilt or she wouldnt have done it again and again but the other thing you'll find true love where it doesnt have your friends sleeping with her while you two are broken up and im sure you can cook and do things for your self get controll and tell her she hurt you and think you need to move on if you dont put your foot down and move on than she'll probley either do it angain or walk all over you. maybe lust is in the air and no love with you two but i was you the best
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