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writes: I have another question. It's about my girlfriend's insecurity. Now what happens is that she says she catches me looking at other girls when I don't. I will admit that i do get bored and my eyes start to wander but i never check out a girl. Sometimes my girlfriend catches me just looking around or just a blank stare to one direction without a thought in my head and she says I'm looking at other girls. How can i fix this? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (19 February 2011):
 Am afraid that you cant. These are her insecuities not yours and it is up to her to work them out. A lot of girls has this insecurity that there boyfriend is looking at other girls. But she needs to realise that even if you were it is her you want nobody else.
Therefore just explain to her that you are not checking other girls out and you only have eyes for her, tell her the paranoia is going to have to stop or else she will end up losing you. Also compliment her as much as you can so that she starts to believe that you actually think she is attractive.
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reader, sunandstars  +, writes (19 February 2011):
Your girlfriend sounds like she's just uncomfortable with herself, she obviously doesn't have a great deal of self confidence and most likely thinks she 'isn't good enough for you' so subconciously presumes you're admiring the other girls. She simply needs reassuring that you love her for who she is and nobody can compete with her.
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reader, GettingHelp  +, writes (19 February 2011):
It is a little rude that your eyes wander... but the rude part is that you get bored, not that your eyes wander.
Explain to your girlfriend that you are easily distracted, but its not necesarily by other girls. Tell her that you are only human and even if you were checking other girls out you'd hope that she wanted you not to die. Its programmed into a guys subconcious, but that SHE is the one you WANT to be with and therefore ARE with.
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