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writes: my gf chooses her friends over me. with everything. we make plans and if one of her friends wants to do something she will cancel with me to hang out with them. all kinds of plans. valentines day even. i don't know what to do. i think that she is afraid of her friends not liking her if she doesn't do everything they do. she complains about not spending time with me, but when we try to make plans i pretty much need to make an appointment. it's that bad, i'm not talking about a few days ahead, i'm talking about weeks. and again, if her friends want to do something, our plans get put on hold, which means they don't happen. i don't know what to do, her constant refusals to spend time with me is getting very frustrating. i love her. i'm not breaking up with her. so i'd really like some advice on how to remedy the situation. [Added]how can i show her how much this bothers me without freaking her out? Reply to this Question
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reader, xxprincessagonyxx  +, writes (22 March 2008):
Well depending on your age, she might not take your relationship to serious she could also think that you would put your mates before her, find out how much she loves you and then ask her if she wants to do something the next day, if she says yes but then lets you down, then consult her about it but break it to her nicely and if she freaks out about it then let her cool down and try and let her see it from your point of view. Hope this helps
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (22 March 2008):
 hey well it kinda happpens sumtimes with girls..they normally tend to give so much time to their girlfriends they forget about abt their bfs family..don worry its a minute problem..i think u should just give her a dose of her own medicine..as in next time she makes plans you cancel them last minute and say that u have to go out with the boys!!lets see how she reacts..she needs to realise that u dont mind her spending time with her friends but that doesnt mean she can ignore you. tell her that you love her and you get really hurt when she ignores u..
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reader, AuntYvi  +, writes (22 March 2008):
When she calls to say she has to meet a friend, go with her, if she doesn't mind!
If you both want to spend more time together then you have to try and get to know her friends. Maybe next date you could invite her best friend along?
Still try and have some alone time, don't let her friends take over but have patience with them.
AuntYvi
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2008): Hmmm.. Well if she feels the same about you then she's probably very easily influenced by her friends, which is never good really! And u need to somehow get her to understand that she needs to stand up to her friends if she wants to spend time with u.
Also is it a possibility that she's making up excuses to not see u? I don't mean to sound mean! But it cud be possible.
I think u need to talk to her and tell her how u feel and that it's hurting u not spending time with her.
xx Hope xx
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