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writes:My guy friend and I had an argument. We have'nt spoken in two days. He has'nt called me.Does it make me appear weak to him if I call him? Or would he appreciate me more for giving in to him and calling? By the way he is an alpha male. Reply to this Question
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (22 April 2007):
 If you value your friendship, pick up the phone. It's worth trying. Give him a heartfelt apology. Be prepared to repeat it several times - with humility. Honestly, life is short and a friend that you value doesn't come along everyday. Sometimes it's worth grovelling a bit to keep something that is important to you. In the meanwhile, you will have set the tone and displayed the way that you should be treating each other in the future, so it will be a lesson for both of you. Best of luck, Hope things work out for you!
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reader, Royofthe Rovers  +, writes (22 April 2007):
 It really does depend on the seriouness of the argument and who was in the wrong?
Have you damaged the trust you both might of had for each other?
He may need the space to think if any trust was damaged by the disagreement.
It is always a sign of good character for someone to be the bigger person and be the first to apologise or try and make the peace in arguements, but maybe he just needs his space to think about what has happened. Only you know the scale of the disagreement and therefore can only guage if it is too soon.
Catch him at the wrong time and he may still be feeling alot of anger and hosility towards you and the situation.
Sooner is always better than later so maybe a text just asking if you can talk to him. Give him time to prepare his emotions. getting surprised a phone call is only going to catch him off guard and may just end of up on the defensive.
Goodluck..
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reader, Selphie142 +, writes (22 April 2007):
I think it'd be okay to talk to your friend about the arguement. He may not want to contact you about it because he may think that HE will be the only appearing weak, especially if he is the alpha male you say he is.
Personally I wouldn't call him... I'd try and see him. This is more personal and you're more likely to be able to have a proper conversation. You can't hang up and you can also use his body language to gauge how he's thinking.
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