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36-40,
anonymous
writes: Okay, I have a problem. There's this guy that I really like, and he's also one of my closer friends. But he dated my friend Cindy. See, I didn't have a problem with them being together, he didn't even know I liked him. But I thought that they both made the cutest couple ( I wasn't the only one who thought that either), and that they should be together. But they broke up a few months ago. And I think that he likes me. He's tried to kiss me and even asked if I had a boyfriend.What do I do?
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reader, crimson_kiss  +, writes (23 April 2009):
 I would take a minute and ask your friend how she would feel about you dating her ex. She might just be ok with it. If you value the friendship at all, you will take that time to find out.
I would have to agree that you shouldn't let others dictate your actions, but its a respect issue at this point.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2009): I know that there's a typical "girl code" that says you don't date your friends' ex, but personally, i wouldn't care less if my friend dated an ex.
This is something that, as long as you feel your friend is completely over the guy, you should first discuss with her.
it was really, very sweet of you to not ever mention anything before about likeing him.
Nothing should ever stop true love, but if your friend decides that she is opposed to the idea of the two of you together, then it's up to you to decide which is more important to you:
Your friend's feeling about this
or the potential relationship that you could eventually develop with this guy.
I don't think you should let other people control you though.
Goodluck, and i hope you get to keep both!
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