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writes:Guys, What do I do?I'm really good friends, like best of friends with a guy and a female who use to be a couple. They had been together for 9 years and they were just totally mad about each other. We use to do like the couples thing. Like nights out, etc. My girlfriend and I, and them. Anyway she did a terrible thing which I don't want to go into. They ended up breaking up. They'd been apart for about a year and a half. She wanted to get back with him but he was finding it really difficult to forget what she had done. He suggested that they go to counselling or something but she wasn't up for it. Anyway for the past couple of months she's been seeing this other guy. My friend is totally heart broken all over again. The thing is I've spoken to him and I know he's still madly in love with her. They're just one of those couples that are meant to be if you know what I mean. Anyway, I've spoken to her and met the new guy and the thing is. This new guy has really fallen for her, but she's told me she's still madly love with her ex. My friend. Both of them need their heads knocked together. But what can I do? They are both really close friends of mines and I know deep down both of them are miserable without one another but they just won't admit it. It's a couple that's just meant to be. I'm starting to feel sorry for the new guy because he doesn't have a clue. Do I just let nature take its course or what?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (6 June 2012):
 If you want to remain friends with both of them then stay the heck out of this situation. Think Switzerland.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 June 2012):
 Be there for each of them as a friend, and tell them how you feel about the situation, explain to your female friend that you think it is wrong to lead this other guy on if she is still in love with someone else. Other than that though there really is not a lot you can do about it. I know it is hard to sit back and watch a mess like this, but it is really up to the both of them to sort things out. All you can do is be there as a friend for them.
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reader, -auntyagony +, writes (6 June 2012):
-Understandably you would like to help your friends out, however its their relationship and your probably best not getting too involved as this may cause more trouble. Say to both your friends, that you think they need to sit down together alone in a quiet place, and talk about what they both want, and how they both feel, also explain to them how this is making you feel. It must be hard to be caught up in the middle like this. Explain that they both need to decide on whether they feel they are meant to be or they are just best going their separate ways and just staying friends. I hope that helps. :)
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