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writes:First of all, I have to say 'my friends' betrayed me or I don't know what do you call this... I have some big issue with them, they barely talk to me, they are mean and indifferent to me.The thing is I don't know how this happened, we were so close before then suddenly they started acting this way, I've talked to them about this once and they told me, well it was actually just one girl 'K' who started telling me I'm a really bad person it was like if she was describing some evil creature, the other girls didn't really said anything bad about me just that i've been somewhat distant to them lately, it was just this girl who was like criticizing me, then the next day I realized she told a gay friend of us that I told the whole world his secret (that hes gay) but I really never did that, actually she was the one who told all of us his secret before he confessed it to us. It was really mean from her, and now that guy told me not to talk to him again and he's truly mad at me. He believes what she told him because they're very close friends :( the other girls do talk to me but that girl 'K' tells them not to talk to me, she even made me and my best friend stopped being best friends, now this girl 'K' is doing her best to kick me outta the group and leave me with no friends, and that really really hurts cause i've always been terrified of being left alone.I know I'm not either the best person in the world, I know there's plenty of flaws and bad stuff in me I have to work on, and I may not be the best friend but I'm really not the piece of crap she says I am. I've talked to other people about this and they don't really think I'm as bad as she says, they think I don't deserve this and I entirely agree with them. My boyfriend thinks she's envious and the other girls may be upset cause now that me and him are together, I spend quite less time with them than before.Whatever the reason is, I don't know what to do, I feel so lonely at school where everyone talks and has fun with their friends but me. That girl is now like their leader and I know that confronting her or fighting her will just make things more complicated.There must be something wrong I'm doing or I don't know what the heck, but this is really making my school time harder and I get sad everytime I think about this.Please help me see this situation clearer to know what to do, how to move on or any idea. Thanks for taking time to read this and thanks in advance for your help.
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reader, Denizli +, writes (14 September 2010):
Denizli is verified as being by the original poster of the question I don't know why, but for some reason I feel guilty about this happening. It could be me who's wrong or I'm just not spending as much time with them as I used to, but now I have my boyfriend it's all different, no one of them has a boyfriend.
It's become so damn annoying to go to school everyday and see their mugs, it's like the worst torture ever, they're always talking about what they did without me the other day.
I was thinking on talking to all of them to apologize for 'all the bad' things i couldve said or done to them, I feel like thats the right thing to do but i'm not so sure.
I feel like really bad tonight. I miss all the 'good times' we passed together :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2010): Your boyfriend is right in saying that "K" is envious of you. Unfortunately there are a lot of girls out there like "K" who are the "leader" of groups, but deep down inside she is insecure, self-conscious, and has extremely low self-esteem. You sound like such a caring and kind friend who does not deserve this at all. It might be best to seek more uplifting friendships and meet new people. I know this hurts right now, but you will get past this and it will make you stronger.
Karma will catch up to her and eventually "K" will get caught in her lies and gossip and will have no friends. Keep your head up high and keep on smiling. All the best!
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