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writes: My friend is a nice girl. She tell me that she meet a handsome guy in the university. She love him at first sight but she is too shy to talk to him. She like to look at him but if he sees her she will pretend to do something else. One day she hears that he talks with friend that she is lovely. She glad to hear that, however she doesn't to go to talk with him. She wants to know that what does he think with her? What do you think she should do, because she is too shy?
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reader, curlz +, writes (18 July 2005):
I think that you're friend needs to work on her self-confidence before approaching this guy.
If she can't see a reason why he would like her, her shyness is understandable. Make her list what she sees to be her good points - she will only truly beleive what she can recognise herself. As her friend however, back up these points, encouarage her and tell her the qualities that you like in her as a friend. Hopefully this will make her see that there is no reason for this guy not to like her.
Finally, remind her that life is about taking oppertunities, and braving the risks that they involve. Is it better for her to say something to this guy and risk a few minutes humililation, or to let the oppertunity of having a relationship with a guy that she is in love with slip away, leaving her wondering "what could have been" for the rest of her life?
If this guy thinks she's "lovely", she's already got a good starting place, and if she get's chatting to him, everything should fall into place. Everyone deserves to be happy, so help to buil dup her confidence, and make sure she doesn't let this oppertunity pass her by!
wish her luck from me x x x
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reader, Bat_hell +, writes (18 July 2005):
You only get one chance in life, so you must always take the bull by the horns and do what you think is right. There is no point in having regrets, everything in life is a learning experience.
If your friend really is too shy to talk herself, maybe she would prefer you or another friend to find out what the guy thinks about her.
The only way she is going to know is if she actually asks or gets someone to ask. You dont get anything in life without asking.
She could invite him out for dinner, cinema or just a walk, to get to know him better, just as friends.
If he doesnt want to, then at least she tried, she can move on with her life, knowing that it wasnt meant to be.
Good luck
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reader, becky05 +, writes (18 July 2005):
The only thing she can do is to ask this man out or wait for him to ask her out. He obviouisly likes her if he said she was lovely.
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