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*lovemygrey
writes:Hi Everybody,I am stuck in a dilemma of sorts. I am in love with my best friend. He loves me too.But he was forced to marry someone else one year back. So, naturally, I tried to forget him. But he has again contacted me and says that he still loves me and that he is not happy with his wife. The thing is, I am crazy about him. I dream of him often. The simple thought of him brings a smile to my face. But I don't want to hurt anyone just for my happiness. Please guide me.Sincerely,Ilovemygrey
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reader, ilovemygrey +, writes (9 June 2009):
ilovemygrey is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGod bless u all for helping me.I desperately needed guidance and u guys gave it.I am really very thankful to u all.I think I should just try to forget him.Its true, if he loved me this much y didn't he tell his parents about me. And yes I must think of the poor girl.Her life would be ruined. Bless u all.May God help u in ur problems AmenAgain, thank you guys soooooooo much
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): If you want to be with him, then our answers will not stop you from being so. But I praythee hear me: Do NOTHING until he is divorced. Otherwise, it is adultery, and illegal, immoral, disrespectful, etc. Just wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): hey cute, u are absolutely right. you can't hurt someone just becoz of ur happiness. love has another meaning too that is sacrifice. if ur friend really loves u then why did'nt he told his parents when they were forcing him to marry someone else. and now when everything happened, he is saying that he loves you. atleast he must had to thing about that girl before marriage. her life would be completely spoiled if he leaves her just bcoz he loves u. i appreciate u that atleast u are thinking about that girl.your friend is just thinking about himself.no one is going to blame your boyfriend, people would blame you if u will accept his love again.
it would be good for u to forget him and lead ur life happily.
you are a girl with such a sweet thoughts and i think someone will definitely love u for this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): while he is married then he is of limits. he must do the decent thing here and leave his wife. i somehow doubt he will do this. your situaion is not unique, just read other stories here.
if he does divorce her then maybe but while he is married then he shouldn't expect a life of love and sex from you. if you were not good enough to be married to him, why are you now only good enough to be his mistress?
if you do not be careful this man will consume your very life, before you knoe it it will be 5 yrs later, and he will still be with his wife. then what . this guy wants a cheap thrill without ending it with his wife. he wants you as his lover and his wife as his stability.
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