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writes:I have a long term friend who has been going through a rough time lately (since November). His father is fatally ill, and my friend has been spending almost all his spare time at the hospital. I've been trying to do what I can to help, and to take care of him by having him over for dinner or renting a movie. Anything to help him get his mind off things when he does take a rare break. To keep this short, he also has a medical condition and has been missing his regular massage appointments. So about a week ago I gave him a massage. We'd had a couple of drinks, it was late, and I fell asleep there, in his bed. Nothing happened. Then I gave him a massage last night, and things got kind of weird. He thought there was something sexual to my motives. I didn't sleep at his house last night. I woke up this morning when he texted me, and he gave me the key to his house so I can walk his dog for him while he's at the hospital for the next few days. (The hospital his dad is in is in another town.) When I saw him, everything between us was okay. Maybe not great, but okay. He just said he didn't think I should give him massages anymore, and I agreed.I usually text him a couple times a day, which I don't plan to do while he's gone. I want to give him some space. I didn't really think my motives were sexual at first, but upon reflection I think he might have been right. Now, I'm just so embarrassed. I really care about him, and the last thing he needs right now is stress in our friendship.My question is: when he gets back, should I try to talk to him about this or just let it go since we seem to be okay?
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reader, Calli +, writes (4 May 2007):
Calli is verified as being by the original poster of the question I appreciate your input. It's really not that I'm hoping anything will "happen" with him. If it does in the future...then that's the future. Right now, I'm really just concerned about the friendship. It's one of the most important of my life. We've been there for each other through a lot, and we've never had any conflict like this before.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2007): I think you should back off a little,before you regret ruining your friendship,let him be the one to make a move that way he cant say you took advantage when he was vunerable,if he wants you it will happen trust me
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