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writes:I'm seriously worried about my friend, she was in what she thought was a non-commital relationship with someone. And then dumped him. He gave her a black eye. Yesterday, he met her while she was walking her dog and punched her and used a razor to cut her arms. nothing serious but still worrying. It probably would have been worse if her dog hadn't attacked him.He lives nowhere near her, so i think hes stalking her for some sort of sick revenge.She can't tell her parents cos they are very anti boys, and would most likely disown her. Which means she can't go to the police. Does anyone have a solution?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2009): nothing serious?????
tell the parents. just tell them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): poster here. i didnt say that i wasnt worried. do u think i would put it up here if i wasnt. all im saying is that the cuts werent deep, not that its not serious. i dont think he can get a gun, they are tricky to get hold of if ur 17 in the uk. ive told her to tell her parents and she has promised she will but not wen. i just wondered if anyone could think of another solution so that her parents wont find out. please dont blame me for this im doing everything i can think of.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (19 June 2009):
 I'm a parent of mostly girls. I'm also against, not so much talking to boys, but sex kind of things at their age. I found where my 15 year old was having conversations adults have with a boy. I was disappointed, angry at the beginning, but now FEAR her safety by getting into the wrong relationship, such as like your friend is in.
As a parent, and being against boys, they love their daughter and want her to be protected. Think about it this way. Put yourself in the shoes of the parent. If you had a child, and were given two choices (1) find our your daughter went against your wishes OR (2) Have your daughter hurt, beaten, cut, and possibly killed from being afraid to tell you.
I'd rather be upset with the choice of my child, than I would lose her. Your friend needs to not live in fear. She deserves to be safe where ever she goes, without fear of harm. I recommend notifying the police. She can do so without her parents, which after they are notified, I'm believe her parents will be more likely to cooperate if there is a police officer there. She can also tell them about her fear, and to tell her parents, they may have an officer or someone from a victims group come with her to answer questions and help keep the parents calm when telling them what's been going on.
I hope this helps. Tell her she's to good of a person than to allow this harm against her to continue.
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reader, desesperada  +, writes (19 June 2009):
 Tell your friend that she needs to go to the cops or her Parents ASAP. This guy has the potential to seriously injure her or even kill her. This is a serious issue and you guys can not wait any longer. I would even advise you to tell her parents if she doesnt. I know it risks losing her friendship but it would be worse to lose her permanently. GET HELP NOW!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): SHE NEEDS TO TELL HER PARENTS OR THE POLICE! There is no question that this guy is dangerous and I think her parents would be more angry if she didn't tell them than if she did. Trust me they will be furious with the guy not her. If she doesn't tell them or somebody soon she could end up killed or seriously injured. PLEASE DO NOT WAIT ANY LONGER!!
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reader, xo.diamond.ox  +, writes (19 June 2009):
 Hey im 13 and this sounds pretty serious!!
If you dont do anything he might come back and keep doing those things or worse such as (murder, rape, kiddnap)...ect
U have to do somthing like go to the police. If that was my friend i wouldnt be sitting around asking pple for advice. NO offence.
Tell someone and you could save her before its to late!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): Tell the police and you tell her parents
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (19 June 2009):
 Wow... my first thoughts are to admit to the parents that she did have a relationship with this guy... and take whatever consequences comes with that admission... then immediately call the police and file a report and/or start some kind of legal action (restraining order or whatever the UK equivalent is to that effect). Personally, upsetting the parents seems a far lesser issue than loosing ones life, don't you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): Dont you care about her life. who cares what parents say, not to mention parents will do anything to protect their children. this freind of yours could die. dont wait. go to the police yourself. dont be stupid and wait, something else could happen thats worse. what if he shoots her next? he sounds insane. get this guy off the streets, there could be others after your freind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): GET HER HELP IMMEDIATLY!!!! SHE COULD END UP DEAD! you would be amazed how parents will change when their children are endagered. if she wont you need to go to the police. do it today do it now. dont wait. she will have her whole life to thank you for it. even if shes mad at first . you can go adn say you dont want anyone to know who made the report, but do and dont wait. please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): Who cares if her parents are anti boys, would she rather him kill her? This guy is clearly mental.. and you say he cut her with a razor but that it was nothing serious?? Are you kidding!!!! Whats wrong with you, thats extremely serious! Get this girl some help! Convince her to tell her parents or you will be watching your dead friend on the 6 o'clock news!!
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reader, toxic_oreos +, writes (19 June 2009):
 she NEEDS to go to the police if i were her i wouldent care, DO YOU WNAT YOUR FRIEND TO DIE? this man sounds like a lunatic he might get a gun next!
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