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writes:first contact.so... ive been msn-instant messaging this girl for about 2 weeks now. she gave me her number and said to call or sms her.so i sms'd her (it was late) - over the next two days, we sent (she sent first, on the first day) (I sent first on the next) a few 'have a good day' messages last night we instant messaged for ages... maybe 2 hrs again... it was pretty natural, and deep topic, which normally i would avoid... but anywaystoday i texted her in the am, but didnt get a reply, and then at 4pm, i got a call! - i was in a meeting and after an hour and a few false starts, we chattedwe talked for 20min - i carried most of the convo, it was fun, light.. i wasnt cracking jokes too much, but i know i made her laugh several times/etc ...at one point she said ''ok keep talking the silence is awkward'' -- i said, 'really? cuz i like it when there can be silence and it be natural' .. she said , you feel that? cuz i ... :: i changed the mood quickly and steered the conversation on to light stuff again and after another 20min, she said she was about to do x,y, z (bla bla) -- and "hey.. gimme a while to do (yada..) -and ill call you back in an hour and a half or so ok?''my question is:was that overall a good signal, 40 min obviously for a first real life conversation (without sms or instant message) seemed good and natural to me, and i think if she didnt feel that she would have canned it sooner , and not said 'talk more later' ?Should i follow up and call myself in an hours time?(or leave it to her as she said she would)((she did make a little dig at me saying ''i gave you my number days ago and you didnt call just texted whatsup with that'' -- i just downplayed that, (it was late nearly midnight) and ... well, i just wasnt in a rush to call, i sort of wanted HER to make that call because to my mind, it shows she is INTERESTED (and duh, i DEFINATLEY am) lolso just tell me am i on the right track?keep it light, keep cool, i wont text or call in an hour, let her chase ?(im definately into her and warm on the fone and funny, so she has to know im not aloof/blowing her off etc)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni hear ya..
its more about 'pre-dating' ettiquette ((my question)) -
id see her right now but shes going out of town with girlfriends and i think because of the age difference she is not quite suuuure if she wants to me
having said that... She Called Me back in an hour, and we talked all night, ...till 2am
She was telling me how a guy must approach her (they cant be all yo-yo sup!... or ''wow your hot, can i call u) etc -- which is fair enough (blech)
which is a similar thing to why i was asking the question - there is a 'certain' type of guy that can date a woman of this hotness (thankfully that appears to be me..so far so good at any rate) -- but i believe its clear that i must be careful to not chase or do any other sorts of wuss-type behavior (excess compliments are out, stuff she can hear all day everyday thats out too, ..) ya know?
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