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writes: Hi I have had a girlfriend for 5 months, i am 17 years old male and she is my first girlfriend...She is 15 almost 16 years old and since we have first been going out it has been a huge change for me and very exiting and fun...However lately i think things have started to settle down and the boost I had is calming down etc...Nothings changed between us ... However my girlfriend makes me promise to be with her forever by signing bits of paper etc and asking me to 'love her forever' ... which i reply 'yeah okay then of course i will' and she always says 'you don't sound too sure' which i find annoying ...She is a very OTT girl and im completely the opposite ... Im happy to say 'i love you' etc i've never been the slushy type... no matter how much i love her i still have a realistic approach on things and that we might not be together 'always' but i hope that 'we are' yet my gf thinks differently and is like any typical girl of that age thinking she will be a one man girl and has already started talking about marriage to me in a few years and she would love to have children with me....Can this push me back because im not sure if i'm finding it too much.....i love her loadz its just this that is bugging me....thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Muscles +, writes (12 May 2006):
Muscles is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot for an answer *dreamer* ... And when i mean she talks about marriage she is kind of like 'will you marry me one day?' kind of thing...which is partly joke and partly real but yeah....i guess its just im not that type of person...She is very OTT and im the opposite...
I feel like I can't talk to her or tell her just how she might be upset and start thinking i am going too go off her of course she would listen to me but i feel scared too....I was feeling down a lot a few weeks back and i didn't act my normal self one day with her and she went home crying thinking she was going to lose me....i think its sweet that she is so dedicated and loves me but constantly worying and being insecure is going to push me away right?...
Sorry to sound so 'begginner' but she is my first relationship and im still learning etc...
Thanks again...
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reader, *dreamer* +, writes (12 May 2006):
 well i see you point, maybe be she is just at that age, i know it doesnt sound good and it sounds like she is 13 or sumthin, but some people are more mature than others, and she doesnt seem to mature if she is thinking about marrage at that age!! i know what you are thinking, and i know from what you told me that you really love her, i think that the best thing you can do is tell her how you feel, just try and be nice about things and explain, about the whole, ur not allways the "i love u, and wanna b with you for the rest of eternaty" sort of thing. she should understand but is she replys with a huge strop and sulks for the nest 5 hours then she is a very imature 15 year old, maybe you should give her some time and she will climb out of this whole love puddle she has drowned, in, but this is comletley up to you, if you dont agree with what i have said then you dont have to take my advice i am just trying to help, and i hope it was ok,
well e-mail me and tell me what happends, or if u have anymore problems, best of luck!!
*dreamer* xxxx
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