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writes:I am 47 I have a 27 year old woman who I was engaged too and living with til a week ago than I was told to stay away she needed space. What does one do when a woman needs space and you are what seems hopelessly in love with her. Do you move on? sit it out and hope you're not being played? Before she asked for space I found she was slipping her ring off, when confronted she said her fingers had swollen. Am I a naive? or being played? a couple questions i guess.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (26 July 2007):
 Do that. If you understand with your mind what is going on, and let your heart follow, eventually the pain will go. Either because you stop hurting, or because she will come back to you.
I'm with you.
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reader, madmaxx +, writes (26 July 2007):
madmaxx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank You all very much for your advice, I think I will sit and wait for a couple weeks than ask if we can have a cup of coffee together to ask if their is anything still there. I just wish it would stop hurting.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (26 July 2007):
It seems to me that the relationship was not working for her. The age gap is significant, and I think you're in too different stages of life to be a good match.
A person I respect very much said once that love isn't something you take from people; it's something they give you if they want. I agreed with this phrase intellectually, but it took me many years to feel with my heart that things are exactly so. I must mention this man said this phrase about his wife, who wanted to go away for a weekend with a man she had met. I thought he was too cold at the time, but he was only rational: if she loved him, he said, you won't go.
If she has asked you for space, let her go. Her love will come to you it it's meant to.
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reader, Butterflyfly  +, writes (26 July 2007):
 I've been in a similar situation (I'm 28 and he was 46, madly inlove at the beginning, but after a while i needed my space because he was so decided and 'full on'/ to me needing my space meant that i was through with him..but to your girlfriend it may mean a different thing!!).we never lived together but the dynamics were similar, i assume.
I think a wise thing to do is to give her some space and decide together to have a honest and blunt conversation after a while, weeks or a month, whatever you two feel confortable with. Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2007): Well Theres nothing you can really do but give her some space if your still concerned about this just ask her nicely just maby say 'are you okay?' or 'do you still want to follow through with this relationship ?' dont shout and have a massive argue with her just let her have some space for abit see how it goes??
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