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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:My fiancé has been spending way too much time with my ex-boyfriend for the past few weeks.About a month ago, me and my fiancé were out at a shopping mall when I saw my ex, me and him had a friendly conversation, and I introduced my fiancé to him.Amazingly, they got on well, which was a good thing.Usually, you wouldn't expect it to go well...However, I've heard rumours off some of his friends (my ex-boyfriend's) that there's a sexual element to the friendship.I told my fiancé this, and asked him why he's spending so much time with him, and he insisted to me that my ex was a "cool guy, great dude, a great friend!"My fiancé said anyone who said there was a sexual element to the friendship was being silly, but how can I be sure?However, I do know my fiancé's never shown any sexual interest in guys before.I don't want to be a jealous, controlling "b*tch", but isn't a bit odd that my fiancé's spending all his free time with my ex?We don't even have sex that much now, because he's more interested in spending time with my ex.I could go out with my girlfriends and party, but I'm not really one for partying, and two wrongs don't make a right.Where do I go from here?Katrina
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reader, Lovely Sweet Laura  +, writes (10 July 2009):
 Perhaps you should talk to your ex about it. Maybe he can shed some light on the details of their friendship. If he says the same thing as your boyfriend than there isn't much you can do there after except tell your boyfriend you are feeling rather neglected. Tell him you understand that he is enjoying this new friendship and there is nothing wrong with that but you are needing some attention from him too. Best of Luck
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