A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:the problem is my fiance and me have booked our wedding for next year. And i asked him if he had told his mum as he sees her more than me and he said he hasnt when i asked him why he said i told her before we was getting married. which i dont believe!! but now we have a date so why wont he? im also very excited about planning our wedding but feel like im on my own with this one. ive looked at wedding venues etc but dont get no feedback from him.please help if you can many thanks
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (7 May 2009):
 Make a point of seeing his mum yourself and fill her in with all the details because to keep this information from her is very unfair.
I don't understand it either because the first people your likely to tell when you set a date is your parents!
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reader, Uncle Phil + ♥, writes (7 May 2009):
 I detect a certain dialect in the way you write, and if I understand you correctly, he's telling you that he has previously mentioned the fact that you're getting married to his mother. If that's the case, there's no harm in you talking to her about your impending marriage!
In the general scheme of things, a women tends to be ten times more excited about planning a wedding than her man, so he's not unusual in that respect. As the date draws closer he'll get more interested, but next year seems a long way off for him at the moment.
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reader, Annalisa +, writes (7 May 2009):
 I can't help wandering how you came to be engaged. I mean, did he propose or did you drop enough hints for him to feel he had to?
Why are you getting married?
If you feel unsure, maybe you should sit down and discuss it all with him, making sure he's actually up for it, for the right reasons and what he expects.
Once that's all clear, you can then tell him you want this to be your and his day, not just yours, that you would like a little help with the planning or at least his opinions on things.
You know, when I got married, being Catholic we had to attend a marriage course. What will you have available?
Taking a short course on marriage via your local church can get you thinking about a lot of stuff you might have taken for granted, it gets you talking, they teach you how to argue constructively too.
Let me know how I can help.
Meanwhile, good luck :-)
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