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writes:i was on here about a yr and a half ago about how i was in love with my best friend but he had a girlfriend and i didnt know if i should say anything. i got some really good advice. i told him and he respected the way i felt but i was too late and he was still taken anyway. he even asked if it upset me when he talks about other girls.now i'm 19 and he's 18. i'll be 20 in a couple of months and this is this situation: months ago, i've lost count, him and his girlfriend broke up. i had to help him cuz hhe was hurt. he did the right thing. he wanted her to explore since he was her first real boyfrined but she ended up hanging out with another boy that is now her boyfriend of 1 month more and lost her virginity to him than she ever did with him for 3 yrs so he kinda got closure but i'm not dumb, u cant shut off ur feelings so quick.he's been with other girls, nothing serious and he helped me thru all my issues. i no longer take pills or cut and i'm actually happy, especially around him, something i've never really been so he's never seen this side of me. he liked me once when i was messed up but he was taken.a few days before christmas we hung out for about 11hrs cuz we were at his friends house recording songs. i noticed he kept doing stuff from across the room like pulling up his sleeves to show off his tattoo's, he'd come sit on my lap and try to get me to put my arms around him but i control myself cuz i'm in love with him. he kept making kissing faces at me and had me go upstairs with him cuz he "heard a noise" he claimed he was trying to get me alone but then said he was joking. a few mins later he unbuckled his belt and pull his pants down just a little and ran downstairs where we all laughed cuz he was trying to make ppl think we had sex upstairs but they know me so it was all in fun.the next day however, he called me and said he was trying to get me to notice him but i wasnt really paying him any attn. i didnt know what to say. he brought up a text from awhile ago when i had thought about asking him to have sex with me but i never did cuz i knew he still had feelings for his ex so i lied and said it was about some random guy. when he brought it up he said he didnt understand why i wouldnt be with him, like have sex cuz at least i know him and he's nice and he would never hurt me. that is true.me, i've never been in a relationship, i've never even been kissed and he knows all of that. what i need help on is: do u think he's only acting this way towards me cuz he's still kinda heartbroken and his ex lost her virginity to some random guy? or do u think his feelings are coming back for me cuz i'm much happier then i used to be and more fun and i'm his best friend? he jokes so much but that day he sounded serious and he's been telling me he loves me more lately. any advice would really help and i apologize for the length.
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reader, AntLuver +, writes (27 December 2009):
AntLuver is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u cuz i dont want to get hurt. i do believe he understands that cuz my best friend before him was a guy and he hurt me real bad and thats how i got into doing things i shouldnt. he wanted to punch that guy.
thats what i'm afraid of, that i'm sending signals that i dont like him cuz i was trying to be more private about it since i thought he didnt feel the same cuz i'm not used to doing anything back. it took me over a yr to tell him how i really felt about him when i initially did.
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reader, ppllzzx  +, writes (27 December 2009):
only time will tell. this could be a rebound and if it is then you are going to get hurt and your friendship with him could be ruined. so wait for about 3 months maybe, tell him you still like him, and if he likes you he is gonna have to wait for you for abit. if he does like you he will wait, if he cnt be bothered to wait then, he isnt worth it! i wall keep your walls up till after three months atleast...,i just dont want you to get hurt!hope this helps x
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reader, pril +, writes (27 December 2009):
Wow. Ok you need to protect ur feelings. But you don't want to let him think you don't want him. So the next time you guys are hanging out if he acts like that again do some thing little back like put your arms around him. Or some kind of touch just to see where it goes. If he pulls away then you will know. But don't act like it bothers you. I hope this helps
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