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writes: When I was a young teenager (14-16) i was a major jerk and caused alot of grief and problems for my family. Since then I have gotten several major reality checks and I've gotten better. But the problem is that my family still doesnt trust me, this was years ago and ive made up since then but there is always that barrier, for example a slight hessitation before a hug, an odd "im watching you" stare, or a general dissinterest in talking to me. I thought that my family had forgiven me a while back and I had regained their trust but it seems like they are acting that way again. I dont know what to do and im not acting like a creep anymore. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 April 2012):
 It can take a long time to rebuild trust in a family. You don't really say what exactly it was you done to them. But these things can take time. Maybe you are looking in to slight little things as well and over reacting. Maybe they don't even realise they are doing these things. The only thing you can do here is to sit down with them and talk to them and tell them how you feel and see what they have to say. Good luck, and well done for turning your life around.
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reader, StarryEyes101  +, writes (26 April 2012):
 Whatever you have done, they are still finding it hard to trust you. It will take longer. You don't expect your family to hurt you, so trust me, it won't go away so easily. Yes, we have all been there and done that when we were that age, but now you have the rest of your life to prove to them that, that was then and you have grown up. Trust me, they won't forget, but they will learn to trust you again. It just takes time :)
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